Is it fair for his sister to invited all of his exs?

Question

It's my Boyfriend, Sister 21st Birthday next month and I was really looking forward to going. But the I found out she had invited 3 of my Boyfriends exs! Two of those don't even speak to the family anymore seen as they're not together anymore but one is always there in my face when ever I go anywhere with his Family! It's a situation where I don't want his sister to flap his Exs in my face! How I see it is my Brother doesn't start inviting my exs everywhere we go because I think that isn't right! Even though this girl is Friends with his sister she gives me the dirtiest looks and is so fake! I am so in love with my Boyfriend that I don't want to see any of his exs (which he has bee physical with) because it puts me so down! I don't want to go to this party and everyone pretending they love eachother and then when someone has their back turnt it's h**l! My Boyfriend has said that he doesn't want to go because she has invited his ex but its not fair that he has to miss his Sisters 21st because of the exs shes invited that she doesn't speak to! She only talks to one of those!

Answer 1

talk to your boyfriend about it - not his sister.

Answer 2

At the end of the day, if they are friends with his sister then why shouldnt they be invited?

She probably didnt mean any harm when she invited them and i dont think she would have if she knew it would cause trouble.

By not going they are getting one over on you, and it should be the other way round.

Just go, show them that u and him have moved on and u dont have to talk to them, or even look at them.

If you are happy and u trust your boyfriend you shouldnt be worried.

Just think, they are his past - you are his future :)

good luck

x

Answer 3

Its her party, and her birthday, 21st's are a big deal she may just want as many people to help her celebrate as possible

Answer 4

You make a courtesy appearance and only stay for 30 minutes to give the sister a card and congratulations!  If you want a reason make other plans for 1 hour after the party time!  Then say we had "a previous engagement" and leave!

Answer 5

There are always going to be people at events you don't like, Period. You and your boyfriend have no say in whom his sister invites to her party regardless of what that persons former relationship is to him. Now you can act as adults and go to the party and ignore her. Who cares if she hates you, she's just jealous.  Don't let her ruin your day, it's what she wants. Living well is the best revenge. You are "family" now, not her. Your boyfriend should have enough balls to tell her to back off if she gets out of line. If your relationship is strong you can be in a room with all of his "ex's" and it would not matter one bit to him, he won't even care, and in fact he would be happy that he finally found the right one. You go thorough a lot of coal before you find the diamond. Remember - YOU are the diamond, they are yesterday's news.  Forget them, put on a great outfit and go enjoy yourself.

Answer 6

sugar gave you a good answer.  after all he is with you and not his x. go and don't let her bother you.  have a good time with your bf.  after awhile you can leave and go off to a movie or something.  by not showing up you are proving to his sister and his ex that it bothers you. even if it does bother you don't show it.  it will be ok he is with you after all.

good luck

Answer 7

Sounds like Sis is trying to put a burr under "YOUR" saddle and you're right, it's not fair for your BF. But if he has enough consideration for you to not go, (trying to protect your feelings) I think you have a wonderful BF. I also think "Sis" deserves the absence of her brother on her special day, just because she's trying to be a b***h to you.