Is it fair for me to babysit almost all week?

Question

Basically all summer and on every vacation my little step sister has, I have to babysit her from whenever she wakes up to 4 or 5 o’clock in the afternoon at which her mother comes home for an hour then leaves to go work on the house we’re going to move into. That includes making her meals, taking care of her when she’s sick, playing games with her etc. Shes 9, I just turned 18. I really didnt mind doing it at first because she was sleeping pretty late, which means I can too so it was good considering I have problems falling asleep and usually dont until 4 am and wake up around 11 am. But shes gotten to be VERY bratty and my step mother just made plans with her friends for her to go with them for like 3 hours at 9:30 am (which means we have to get up at 8:30) so Im going to have to get her up, feed her, get her to take a shower, help her with picking her clothes and argue over it cuz shes very difficult, brush her hair, make her bush her teeth… bascially all the things a mother is supposed to do. Im completely fed up now… and I feel like i have no options anymore. If I say anything to my father about it I get called diffficult and selfish. I guess it kinda is selfish but Im not her mother or her babysitter so I dont get it -_- Am I over-reacting?

Answer 1

She is 9? And she can't get her own food , brush her hair ,take a shower without  being told, or pick out her own clothes?? My granddaughter is 8 and wouldn't think of having someone else brush her hair, pick out her clothes,etc. Your step mom needs to teach her to be more independent. An eighteen year old girl should be out with her friends or working. She is to young to stay home alone, but I don't feel you should have to watch her all of the time.

Answer 2

no your not over reacting... thats not fair. and if your 18 you are legally an adult.... so just tell them that you wont do it... they can but her in the ymca or something like that

Answer 3

If she is becoming bratty it may be that she is feeling your tension with the whole situation. If your step mom is working and bringing in money and then going to work on house bite the bullet a little bit cause it sounds like everyone has some responsibilities to take care of right now. No you are just a big sister and she needs your care taking and guidance right now. She would probably love to see her mom more too.