Is it fair for parents to say that their children are too spoiled?

Question

Just wanted to know what people thought about this.... My mom always says I'm too spoiled, but then, if I am, it's because of her...

It's not like the kids ask to be spoiled when they're really little. Then by the time they're old enough to make responsible decisions, they've been messed up by being spoiled already, so it's too late, unless they're really lucky.

Answer 1

Sometimes it’s not the parents who do this--it’s the grandparents or the aunts or the uncles and so on and so forth.  But regardless of who it was, at some point you have to take responsibility for your own actions instead of trying to shift the blame to someone else.  Maybe your parents should unspoil you by taking away every luxury item that you have.

Answer 2

yes its fair for us to say it.  because you most likely are, and we know we are doing it, but we just want you to have everything that we didn't have. so yes it is our fault.

Answer 3

its a very contradictory statement honestly it don't understand it. It pretty much is their fault in the beginning but you always have the chance to change it.  

Answer 4

If you know it is true, then take soem responsibility and start doing things for yourself

Answer 5

Its like admitting you are a loser and bad parent.  I frankly dont know if that means showering a child with material possessions or catering to their needs in serving the meals they like or what though. It would depend on the individual case and age of the child. Go ask your mother if you can talk with her. Tell her that when she says you are spoiled it causes you to wonder . Get her to tell more about how she feels you are spoiled and if there is anything you might do to solve this problem. I think you deserve an explanation. Tell her you are concerned it will affect your life so ask her if she could please help you out here. Good Luck

Answer 6

It's absolutely your parent's fault if your spoiled. I'm glad your Mom has recognized this and is trying to rectify her mistake. Better late than never!

Answer 7

No it's not to late.

I have a younger sister that my mom did spoil her and there was a 9 year different between me and her. But any way I even took care of her when she was younger and she did get what she wanted when growing up and it wasn't by me it was by my mom. You see my mom and dad worked and there was 5 girls in the family.

We shared alot of things when we were kids and having one large bed to share and toys and yes some clothes.

When  we are spoiling our kids is because you want them to have the things you never had when you were a kid. It's about loving them but reality our kids do need to know that they can't have every thing they want because they are not really learning anything.

I have a daughter who is 10 now and she is an only child and she does gets most of the things she wants but she some times buys her own things with her own money.

I hope this helps.

Answer 8

Well yes it partly is your parents fault. However there are some kids who are given everything by their parents but who I wouldn't call spoiled. You are only spoiled if you take things for granted and are constantly expecting people to pamper you. You can be appreciative of what your parents give you and thankful for it, in which case I wouldn't call you spoiled. So it is both your fault and your parents fault.

Answer 9

no

she's probably being a bit manipulative