Is it fair that the father of my second child should start school this fall, when the baby is due?

Question

I have been going to school full time for the past three years, I'm getting closer towards my degree. This is my second child. While being in school full time i have also always had a full time job. Right now im pregnant, work a full time job and have a second job i work at on the weekends just to make ends meet. The father and I are currently not living together because we fought alot. He told me, "just face it Stacie it's not feesable for you to go to school. You need to quit and work full time." After he said that i moved out, I was not going to allow him to tell me to give up school. I was the one paying for everthing anyways. Now that we have a child on the way, he wants me to move back in. I told him it would be nice if he would work, so i could be home with the baby, finish my degree in accounting, and work nights at my friends resturant. But he says he can't because he is going to start school this fall when the baby is due. Is this fair of him to do this to us?

Answer 1

Well, life isn't "fair" and it sounds like both of you are unwilling to make any sacrifices in your schedule as far as your new baby is concerned. Let him start school this fall, and use your child support check to help pay for child care while you are at school and work. Don't quit school. He's just saying that because if you quit school and worked full time, it would take some of the pressure off of him getting a job and being a man about things.

Answer 2

You mean to tell me that the man is not working?  Get rid of the idiot .....do what it takes to get your degree and things will fall into place.  OF course it will be hard, but not any harder than taking care of a freeloader

Answer 3

Neither of you are being fair.

Children mean sacrifices, which means that if he wants to be a father, he should consider work before school to help support the three of you, for you it may mean taking fewer classes this semester in order to have more time with your new baby.  You may be in school longer, but the benefits will be huge.

There is always a way, but there is give and take.