Is it fair to be so picky with a young child?

Question

I see so many parents stressing if their baby doesn't behave EXACTLY as they do, as adults. Musn't make a mess, must sleep at a certain time and for a certain length, musn't make a noise when it doesn't suit the adult. I understand children need boundries but there is such a thing as going completely over the top and saying "don't do that" and "no" to every little thing they try to do. It drives me mad. How can a child ever explor and learn if it is curbed at every turn? Parents, don't u think its time to allow your child to actually BE a child and say the "no" for when it is REALLY needed

Answer 1

daddy.. daddy wasnt there to take me to the fair..... when i was first bapticised, steak and kidney pies, when i was CIRCUMCISED daddy wasnt there

Answer 2

Pick your battles with children.  Let them have some fun, get dirty, sleep late on occasion.  All too soon they will be adults.

Answer 3

theres a difference between your child knowing their boundaries and you bein too controling of the child!!! Let your child be a child that will be the only way that child will learn new things is by experiencing them......It just makes me cringe when i see a child that is just sittin there lookin soooo sad because they have been disiplined and told no too much... it breaks their spirits!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

We try to be quite lenient with our son but today has been one of those days. He ran out onto the road twice and then refused to go to bed and hung on for dear life so I couldnt pick him up etc. Sometimes things like that seem small but in the long run they end up snowballing into mammoth problems. I think that it is better to be harsh at an early age then as they get older they know the boundaries. I would never hush a child though but if they are talking at inappropriate times like during an important phone call I do tell him to go play with his toys! However, my husband is more strict than me and says no a lot but my son is like a one man wrecking ball and has already got burnt from a cup of tea so he does have to be careful cause unlike some parents we haven't gone crazy over kid proofing the house, yet that requires more no's and dont touch the dogs stinky bed covers, dont smash the metal train against the fish tank....etc!!!

Answer 5

It is very good to be strict a child needs structure and defined rules, but yes they also need to be allowed to be children its a very fine line to walk

Answer 6

No, many parents are not fair with their babies.

They treat them like a property and see them as "defective" if they dont do whatever they want.