Is it fine for my friend to behave this way?

Question

I've been best friends with 2 girls from my swim club for 3 years now, and we've always stuck together. One of them, Steph, doesn't come all the time, so it's often just me and my other best friend Claire. Recently, she's been "flirting" with a guy in our lane and when she's with him, she just completely ignores me. Before we'd have private conversations in the showers but now she's just laughing at all his jokes and blanks me. She never leaves the showers with me anymore, but stays in the showers as long as that guy does. I have no problem with her having other "friends", I'm not clingy at all, but I just feel sorta left out. My other friend Steph notices it too. Should we say something or not?

Answer 1

Hey,

I am in the exact same situation ( but its not swimming ) claire is just really likes this guy she probably doesnt no shes ignoring you, when i confrounted my best friend she had no idea so i told her the truth and shes now getting better, she mightt take him over you but dont you worry think about it this way if they spilt whos the first person shes gunna go 2 ? Yerpp you got it YOu!.   Let her like this boy andd if they go out and she asks u do you want to go to the cinema or something say yes maybe ask the boy You liek to come with you or the other girl steph.  It'll all work out.

best of luck. x

F e r n . . x  

Answer 2

It sounds like your friend is really into this guy, so much so that when he's around everything and everyone else disappears.  This type of situation is not uncommon when a new relationship begins.

I doubt she realises she is doing this.  I think that the best thing to do would be to talk to her about it in private - away from the pool.  Keep calm, but let her know how it makes you feel.  She might be surprised and sorry about how her actions and behaviour has come across.

However, if she still continues to totally ignore you after you've spoken to her about it, then I would suggest that you pull back from her somewhat, even when the guy is NOT around.  

Get talking to some of the other people at the swim club.  That way you'll have a larger range of people to talk to and have a laugh with, so that you won't have to solely rely on her for company when at the club.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say anything because if nothing else, it may appear like winging. At the same time I understand the notion of your feeling left out.

Some people can be right gits over an interest in the opposite s*x!

Answer 4

yeah that's kinda rude, i think you should say something to her.

Answer 5

Your friend, Claire, has fell head over heels over that boy.

No use talking to her anymore, until she bumps into a wall and realizes that she has ignored her friends.

Yes, she has a right to her love life, but she has to think about her friends too.

Answer 6

She probably doesn't realise she's doing it, talk to her about it.

Answer 7

in a situation like this i tend to return the favour

so if i am being ignored i will tend to do the same to that person eventually they will either get the message and ask what is up or they will disapear completely either way you will have an answer at the end of this