Is it fundamentally acceptable to fight back when when your girlfriend's husband finds out about you?

Question

I used to sleep with a married woman. We had a relationship for appx. 6 months. We have since broken things off, but, out of guilt, she feels the need to tell her husband about the affair.

When he comes to kick my butt, should I even bother fighting back? Part of me knows I deserve the beating he's going to want to give me, but the other part is allergic to pain.

Answer 1

Maybe just kick your own butt while jacked up on some serious pain killers and send him the pictures?

Answer 2

get out while there is time...find your own!

Answer 3

OK i am married and did the same thing she did. My hubby still has not confronted the guy although he wants to, I know the guy will fight back, he's hotheaded. But do you think this guy is coming after you? I know when someone is hurt, it seems like a good idea at the time, but really, think about it. Did you pursue her? Did you know she was married? Or did you find this out afterward? Not knowing about the marriage is not really an excuse, but it puts it more on her for not telling you. now if you knew she was married, and maybe even knew him, then honey, you got it coming. my situation, i was separated from him and we were in different states, i had every intention of getting a divorce and wanted to move on with my life. It did not make it right, but i explained to my husband that the man was lead on by me, and it was not his doing that started the affair. It didn't make him want to kill him any less, but he has kept his cool to a point. Sounds to me like you really need to access the blame in this case. Look at all the details. If you were mislead, maybe try to explain it to him that way. He is hurt right now, and very angry, but beating you up isn't going to make it any better. Seems to me like the best thing for all involved is for you to just stay away from the two of them as much as possible and hope for the best.

Answer 4

you did the crime , now you must do the time.....

Answer 5

If she is going to tell him, ask her not to give out your identity.  that guy will surely kick your ***.  what you did was wrong, but what she did was wrong too. it takes two to tango.  so ask her to not give out your name or any information, she chose to sleep with you and now she is going to put you in harm's way

Answer 6

you had all the fun now you have to deal with the unpleasant part.

Answer 7

Nice She isn't selfish???  I mean I get it but is she really doing it for everyone or is she just doing it for herself

Something doesn't sound right about this confession for some reason

Answer 8

Well i'm not going to condone what you did, and your right that you deserve the beating he is going to want to give you.  Though i tend to think the wife deserves a good portion of that beating.

However, self preservation is built into every person.   I wouldn't suggest you sit there and take it, i would suggest that you try to just avoid the confrontation.

Answer 9

The moment he appears to do violence, call the police.  If he attacks you, you have a right to have him arrested for assault.  That is the bottom line.

Married or not married, you have a right to be protected from violence.  Her husband has no more right to attack you than anyone else for any reason whatsoever under the law.

If you fight back, you are equally guilty under the law.  Just remember that.  So don't hit back.  Try to avoid if possible, just head to the police station if necessary.