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am in a relationship and I never completly pay for a date ?

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  1. no


  2. No, if you made him pay for everything, all the time, then I'd say you were a goldigger.

  3. being a goldigger is something else what you are is cheap.

  4. So what?  It's no one's business whether you pay, or your boyfriend pays, or you split the costs.  Traditionally, the person who does the asking does the paying.  And quite honestly, whether it's a long-term relationship or not, you should always have cash or a credit/debit card on hand that will pay for the meal or whatever you're doing, as well as get you a taxi home.  You never know when something will go wrong and you'll be stuck with the bill.

    Do offer to pay.  Offer to go Dutch.  If your boyfriend says no, that's his choice.  

    You're a golddigger if you ask him or expect him to always take you to the most expensive restaurants, or always get only front row seats at concerts or plays, and then you never offer to pay.  You want to go to the most expensive restaurant in town?  Fine.  You make the reservations, you ask him, and you pay.  But you don't get to ask him to take you expensive places or buy you expensive things.  THAT'S a golddigger.

  5. It's not really wrong f he agrees to pay :p..

    If he doesn't have money or wants you to pay then something is wrong.

    Offer him to pay, if he doesn't want you too, its not wrong.

    It wouldnt be wrong for me i guess :p

  6. Not as long as you pay him back in other ways...and that means no headaches, baby...

  7. depends. If you go 50-50 allot then no.

    But if you sit back and continually get a free ride then your just a parasite.

  8. it is a form of submission and i applaud you lady .

  9. Well, if you are feeling bad about it, then maybe you should request a talk w/ the guy you are seeing so you can arrange a split-pay sort of thing.

  10. It would be wrong if you never offered to pay and expected your partner to cover everything without question. But if that's what works for the two of you, then fine.

  11. it would be polite to your date to pay for some of it but youre not a gold digger if your not doing it on purpose and youre not making him buy you stuff all the time

  12. I aint sayin shes a golddigga but she aint messin with no broke..

    Yea sounds like you are.

  13. no i dont think so... not unless your only going on the date becasue you dont wanna pay for your own food

  14. Feminism dictates that you pay half.

  15. I think it depends on the circumstances.

    If you are a student dating a man with a full time job, then it's OK if he pays for most things.  

    If you have a good reason to be unemployed and you are dating a man with a good income, then it's OK for him to pay.

    On the other hand, it would be really nice if you could organise a date that you can completely pay for.  Even if it's a walk in the park followed by an ice cream.  Or if you invite him to your place and cook for him.

    I don't think money is the issue; it's really about generosity.  I've been on both sides of this: I've been the girl with no money and I've been rich girl (comparatively speaking).  I love taking my friends and partners out.  And I also love it when they make nice plans for things to do with me.  I don't care if we do things that cost nothing.  It's about the thought!


  16. A golddigger is a woman who chases men with money and leeches it off them.  Did you get with this guy because he was rich or did you start a relationship because you liked him?  Don't confuse liking him with gifts he gave you...

    To fix this why don't you do something nice for him?  Surely he has interests and you can do something that would mean something to him.  Guys get a lot of flak for not being randomly romantic like that but girls can be just as guilty.  If you are doing things for him, non sexual things ( I shouldn't have to address that but s*x is not a favor),  than you can keep accepting the free dates.  

    Obviously you feel bad about it though so you should do whatever makes you feel at peace you know? :)

  17. No, as long as you've offered to and don't just expect it. So if  you  haven't offered you should, even if it is just a formality.

  18. look... theres nothing wrong with the guy paying for the hole date... thats how its sposed to be... the guy is sposed to pay.... after all.. men got more mony than us... or at least those r the 1s u shud be dating...

  19. Yes! You should contribute and not rely on a man to pay for everything in the relationship.

  20. what do u mean ?
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