Is it halal to.....?

Question

Is it halal to smack your children for the reason of discipline?

If Allah says not to inflict harm on yourself why inflict harm on someone eles.

If im wrong please correct me.

Answer 1

Splendor Seeker is right, except...they may realise that's the last resort and not be disciplined, so ultimately the last resort (i'm afriad) would be to smack your children...unless it can be proven haram otherwise. just some thoughts ;) i should really investigate on this actually, thanks!

plz answer my answerless question :-)http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 2

Hey, I know our muslimahs are very conservative, covered up from head to toe & all and we constantly accuse the kafirs of pornography & adultery of s*x etc etc.

But do you know that we are also very holy in public?  We show true islam in broad daylight and make our allah & muhammad(pbuh) proud of us.

See this: http://elmoism.chocoboard.com/p/5089

Oh, how great is muhammad(pbuh)! he has taught us muslims well!  We kill people, we lie, we have s*x everywhere and we accuse the non-muslims of shame.  OH ~ allah!  you have shown us what your holiness means.

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Answer 3

Prophet Mohammad PBUH said: The best hobby for parents is to teach manners to their children. You can use some tricks to teach your child including smashing but it should not be too hard. It should be only for warning.

Answer 4

It's Halal to trade your daughter for a camel so I'm sure you can smack her.

I doubt you can smack your son.

Answer 5

Why to smack them???? Tell them kindly many time and if they still dont understand they you have the right to do.

Answer 6

tell and make them understand politely and gently. and sometimes when they do not understand don't just start beating them, rather raise your voice and give them a pat on their back. do not slap them on their faces. and right, do not inflict harm on them. but for their good future and to make them a good human being, teach them right ~!

Answer 7

I haven't heard anything allowing people to "smack" their children. I once heard, but I am not sure, that the prophet (pbuh) said that the last thing a man can do to warn his child is to raise his cane (or stick, used by old people for walking) to show the child the he can hit him but that's it. That was the last resort. In other words, you are only ought to show them that you CAN beat them but you're not supposed to actually smack them. I am not sure whether the above narration is true or false but I, personally, think that you should discipline them from the start since "as the twig is bent, so is the tree inclined."

Answer 8

If a child is putting himself or another in danger, one may spank the child. One may also use spanking to re-inforce Islamic behaviour and akhlaq. In no way should spanking be the primary method of teaching children right and wrong. Parents must establish good communication with their children, talking to them often and giving them good instruction and guidance about Islamic beliefs, practises, and characters. Parents should also live according to what they are teaching and be honest about the mistakes that they make and their intentions to improve themselves. Parents should establish very clearly what their expectations are of their children and set up rewards for good behaviour as well as punishments for bad behaviour. Punishments generally include removal of privileges or time outs. Spanking should be biewed as the last resort. Parents are forbidden in Islam from causing injury to their children, even to the extent of leaving a red mark - at which point they owe the child compensation. Parents are also forbidden from psychologically intimidating or terrorising their children.

Answer 9

In Islam, it is certainly an extreme action that can be taken, when the other does not understands by any other means.First, one must try to guide the child by conversing .If the child does not understands kindly, you can get strict in conversation, but if the child doesn't pay any attention then its not wrong for you are doing it for the child's betterment.

But of course there is limit to everything, mostly people beat their children harshly and that is definitely a wrong way.

Answer 10

"As far as hitting in the face, this is not permissible due to the

statement of the Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, "Do not hit the face and do not defigure." Regarding the second part, is it permissible to hit the student in general as a means of discipline; the answer must make mention of the statement of the Prophet, "Command your children to pray when they reach the age of seven and hit them if they leave it off when they reach the age of ten and separate them from each other in the beds."

"In this hadith is a proof that for the student, rather the child,

whether he is a student or not, it is not permissible for the one in charge of him to hit him due to his deficiency in obeying the commands until he reaches the age of ten. Command your children to pray when they reach the age of seven and hit them if they leave it off when they reach the age of ten and separate them from each other in the beds. Without a doubt, the Hukm (ruling) or Ahimiyah (importance) of whatever knowledge any teacher wants to present to

his students will not be equal to the importance of prayer.

Therefore, if the Prophet himself prohibits the father from hitting his child due to not praying, until he reaches the age of ten, then with all the more reason, it is not permissible for other than the >father (from those in charge) to hit the children for something other than leaving off the salah until he reaches the age of ten.

Thus, it is not permissible for the teacher to hit the child even if he did not obey him regarding the salah. What else exists from the other affairs that are as important as the Salah. "In this connection, I would like to also add that the age of puberty for girls and boys differs tremendously from country to country. I know that in general, in countries of warm climate, the hormones may mature at a faster rate; thus the age of takleef (duty: obligation to observe precepts of religion) would be reached at an earlier age than it would in a colder climate. Then this rule should not be taken in a general way but rather each country should study the children or it should be done in a more detailed way. For example

one would find out whether this particular child reached the age of >puberty or is he still in childhood? So whatever seems to predominate from this study, the hukm (ruling) would be decided."

He was then asked: "With regards to hitting, if the child had bad banners and hit.." Sheikh Al-Albaani began saying:

"There is no hitting, no hitting at all. Rather there is directing,

advising and speech. Sometimes words have a greater affect on people than hitting. In addition, hitting with some people does not help at all, rather it makes them continue on what their upon more and more.

What is important is that the best of all guidance is the guidance of Muhammad, may peace and blessings be upon him. Thus the child is not to be hit so long that he did not reach the age of puberty.

"On this note, I understand from the gradual teaching of the Prophet that was previously mentioned in the hadith, 'Command your children to pray . ' to the end of the hadith, I understand from this hadith that it is wrong what I see take place with many fathers. He commands his child to pray before reaching the age of seven. This is opposition to the commandment of the Prophet, may peace and blessings

be upon him. 'Command your children to pray when they reach the age of seven.' That is why it is not appropriate for the Muslim to put the commandment in effect before what the Prophet defined initially.

It is ok for the father to permit his child to come along with him to pray with him in the masjid. But as far as him telling him, "Come here, get up, go make wudoo' and pray." and the child has not yet reached the age of seven, this is opposition to this hadith, so I just wanted to remind you all of that."

He was also asked: "Sheikh, regarding hitting, sometimes you find students leave their houses and have no manners, even good advice does not benefit them, so does hitting them fall into necessity?"

Sheikh Al-Albaani replied:

"There is no necessity, where is the necessity here. Can you

comprehend that hitting would benefit when the One who created him said, do not hit him until he reaches the age of seven."