Is it healthy to see a married man I have a crush on?

Question

I'm a seventeen year old girl. I've never had a boyfriend and my dad and I don't have a close relationship and I even admit I view my dad as a stranger for not being there for me in my most "important" moments. I've been hanging out at my uncle's apartment and I met one of his friends. He's a 30 year old man who is married. He looks very attractive to me and when I was going to walk the dog he followed me and flirted around with me. I had an instinct to ask if he had a wife even if he didn't have a wedding band. He was shocked when I asked him. He flirted even more repeatedly saying I was beautiful. When we got to my uncle's apartment I ignored him and he left shortly to see his wife and in front of everyone he kissed my hand like in the film Titanic. It felt incredible to have someone kiss my hand romantically. I developed a crush on him but I think I'm getting over him and I asked his family member if we should all play soccer in two days. I really love seeing his jerkface around. Any comments and or suggestions? I would like to view your opinions. Note: I've talked to my mom already but she wasn't really helpful.

Answer 1

You're 17..he's 30 and married.

You don't think it's kind of skeezy for him to be messing around with you?

The only reason he's paying you any attention is because you're young and "fresh"..if you were his age he wouldn't give you a 2nd look.

He's a cheater..why would you even want to be around a man that would stab his family in the back to have a quick roll in the hay with you? And lemme tell you..that's all he sees when he looks at you..p*s*y.

I was 17 not long ago..even I wasn't that dense. You have got to be smarter than this. Stick to boys your own age..having an affair with a married man will get you nowhere..he isn't going to leave her for you.

h**l..it may not even be legal depending on where you live.

He's a pervert..walk away before you s***w yourself up.  

Answer 2

Stay as far away from his as you can. Find someone your own age that IS NOT MARRIED.

Answer 3

Ok you need to grow up big time and do not get involved with a married man. At all. Ever.

Since you still seem to have this crush....it isn't healthy at all for you to see him under any circumstances. This is drama you really don't need.

Answer 4

Ok. sorry to break this to you, but stay far away from him.

It doesn't sound good a married man of 30 flirting with a 17 year old.  A married man with the right mind usually shouldnt flirt around ESPECIALLY with a 17 year old girl.

Don't rush, girl.  There are plenty of guys out there.  You'll meet your ideal guy someday.  

Of course it felt incredible, anyone would feel that for the first time.  

Plus think about it, even if it works out and he divorces his wife, how would you know he wouldn't do that to you?

Good Luck, I'd say if you really want you can stay as friends, but nothing and that's nothing more