Is it horrible that i dont want to breastfeed at all?

Question

i am having a child and i really dont have any interest in breastfeeding, i have a busy life and i dont what to do that at all..

can i just use the bottle from birth,

Answer 1

Yes, you can. I do the same. Some people will call you horrible, but no, you are not horrible.  You do what you want to do, It is best to breastfeed, but formula is the next best thing, so don't feel guilty.

Answer 2

This has to be a personal choice. If it does not seem appealing to you then don't do it. Feeding time should be enjoyable for you and your baby. If mama ain't happy then nobody is happy! ;o)

There is no shame in bottle feeding so don't let anyone put that on you.

As long as your baby is eating well and gaining weight that is all that is important

Answer 3

YES, are you sure you don't want to try breast tho?  Just make sure you look into both and if bottle is best for you then go for it.

Answer 4

You are not horrible. I tried to breastfeed my first child and dI had a difficult time. So after a week, he went on formula. With my other three children, they went straight on formula.

Some people will say you are wrong to not breastfeed. You're not. You have to do what's best for you.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say so, but your reason is a bit questionable.  You have a busy life and don't want your baby to interfere with it.  It makes me wonder what other corners you'll cut when it comes to raising him.  After all, you put yourself before the innocent baby you are about to bring into the world.  Yikes.

Answer 6

Its a personal choice that the mother gets to make. Don't by any means feel obligated to breast feed. There are supporters out there that hound mothers about breast feeding, but formula has come a long way. Breast milk is the best, i agree, but formula is good too.

Love and affection is what makes a difference in a child, not whether they were breast or formula fed.  

Answer 7

It's your choice. I would just let her feed from my b*****s at first...see how you like it...you may change your mind! It's wonderful and bonding :-)

I also agree with Bugsy...It's great for your child...

Answer 8

I felt the same way prior to having a child, but when my dd was born, she wanted the breast so I gave it a try.  I'm very happy I tried because it turned out to be an amazing experience (I breastfed for a total of 18 months).  I lost weight much more quickly than a friend who had a baby around the same time.  I also experienced a wonderful sense of calm and serenity during the time I was breastfeeding.  I believe that breastfeeding releases certain hormones that induce relaxation.  As soon as I stopped breastfeeding, my mood swings returned; it was a real bummer.  That being said, your'e not horrible for not wanting to do it, it does take a lot of perseverence and willpower, but imo is worth it.

Answer 9

you can use a bottle from birth, they say breastfed babies are more haelthier and have other benefits from a formula fed one but my two were formula fed and they are both fit and healthy, do what suits you.

Good luck

Answer 10

It doesn't make you horrible, but maybe your questioning means you should rethink your priorities a bit.  I know many kids that are raised on the bottle, but am also a LLL participant so can spout the info on how good it is for your child.  I have seen that many mom's not interested in breastfeeding have body issues or are not really ready to being moms.  This doesn't diminish their ability to be a good mom, they just use this as a way to seek power in their position "I can be a good mom, but I want to be in as much control of my body and time as possible, so I will just use a bottle."  Really, breastfeeding isn't much more time consuming as bottle feeding, if you add in the time to mix and temp control.

You might also consider the statement that you lead a busy life could very well change once your baby is here.  Go to a LLL meeting and ask questions, the best decision is an informed decision!

Answer 11

Well, in all honesty, I find breastfeeding way more convenient than bottles.  My child's food is always on tap, ready, mixed and at the right temperature - no matter where we are.  It doesn't get much easier than that!  But yes, you can use a bottle right from birth if that's what you really want to do.  Obviously it's your decision.

I have to agree with BoSox, it seems like you are expecting your baby not to inconvenience you, but no matter how you feed them, your life *is* going to change.

Answer 12

Its not horrible.  You having a busy life can be made even more hectic with breastfeeding, but just know your hectic life will have to be sloed down some anyway for your child.  If you want the benefits but dont wanna sit there and do it, you can try pumping and you can take it to work.  If that doesn't work or you just don't wanna even try, then yeah you can use formula but just remember there are many benefits of breastfeeding for you and the baby.  But if the stress is too much, then formula is probably better because a stressed out mommy is no good.

Answer 13

Your not horrible for not breastfeeding. :) and yes you can use a bottle from birth.

Answer 14

Yes, you can give the bottle from birth. If people start to give you a hard time, forget them. Some people don't know how difficult it is to breastfeed. The first few days were absolute h**l for me and in the middle of the night, its hard to have to get up. I was ready to quit but have gotten good at it and used to it. If you don't want to, then don't. Why should you be miserable the entire time you are breastfeeding just so that people won't hound you? I agree, your life will still be busy but honestly, breastfeeding is tough... I don't blame you for not wanting to. The breast is the best but if its not best for you , then forget it.  

Answer 15

i don't blame you at all.  i was so for breastfeeding in the beginning.  i lasted 3 months.  once we got past the stage of eye and brain development i had to quit.  b*****s hurt all the time.  i couldn't go anywhere for long periods of time.  i understand when you say you have a busy life... your not saying that your to busy for your child your saying you won't be able to keep up.... one bit of advice tho:  in the hospital and maybe for the first couple days  your body produces this stuff called colostrum which is so important.  you could maybe just let her/him get that then go right to the bottle.  what do you think?  here is a link to explain what it is.  like i said it's just a day or so.  hope it helps.  if you don't wanna do that either... it's your choice don't let anyone make you feel bad about your decision.  

http://ezinearticles.com/?Colostrum-Milk...

Answer 16

You can. Although you say that you don't want to because you have a busy life. Did you know that preparing the bottles and formula is way more time consuming than breastfeeding? First you have to sterilize the bottles and nipples and then you need sterilized water to mix with the formula, then you need to measure and mix it and then you have to hope that the formula you bought will not be too harsh for your baby's stomach. But yes you can use the formula right from the start. Even pumping takes so much work. You'll be pumping non-stop for days. Good luck and hope you make the best decision for you and your baby. Congratulations on your soon to be.

I also completely agree with bosox27.

Answer 17

I don't understand.  I'm not meaning to be a bi*ch, really, but you're saying you're not too busy to have a child but you are to busy to give that child the best start in life?

Why would you have a child if you don't have time?

Formula is fine if you can't breastfeed but 'won't' breastfeed?  I don't get it.  

I'm all for the choice but it seems to me that you're more interested in your life than your baby.

Just want to add.....do you have any 'interest' in making, washing and sterilizing bottles?  If not, maybe you should look into alternative ways of feeding baby.