Is it illegal for an 18 yo. to go out with a 14 yo.

Question

i met this one guy. && he is simply amazing. he plays football does track && he's 18 and a senior. im 14. he turns 19 today. && i turn 15 august 22nd. we aree literally the perfect match for each other we have so much in common. && we have that great relationship going. but we never tried going out cause he is really scared that he might get put up in jail or something cause our age difference he has told me a million times he really really like me & im the only girl he wants to be with. but our age is killing us. && he said the only way we could possibly be together is if you wait for me for 3 years. i want to wait for him but i just dont think i could do it. i really really like him so much. but i dont know how to handle this situation.

any thoughts, advice?

Answer 1

An 18 year old is only interested in a 14 year old little girl for one thing. Your parents could, and should, have him arrested if he so much as breathes on you. Worry about 14 year old things instead of a boyfriend. You have plenty of time for that.

Answer 2

Can you say 5 to life for the guy? and if your parents knew that you were trying to date an older guy that age, they could press charges on him.. better wait, plus you "Like" him.. thats not a reason to get in trouble with everyone is it?

Answer 3

If you guys are sexually active it is , If you guys are just casually dating and Kissing and Making out. If it becomes sexual then the male could end up in prison, its better to just avoid this and find a male your own age.

Answer 4

It is very illegal.  In most states age of consent is 16.  He could possibly go to jail/prison and have to register as a s*x offender for life.  So if your selfish keep seeing him, but if you care about him... break it off  

Answer 5

It's not illegal unless you have s*x.  

Answer 6

As long as you're just dating it's ok... If you want to take it further than that then I'm pretty sure it's illegal. However, kissing is ok. Wikipedia the all-knowing says that it varies from state to state. I hop eI was of help tou you.

Answer 7

yes, it's illegal based on the fact that he or she is a legal adult and the other person is still a child-of-sorts and a minor in the eyes of the law.  The only thing that may prevent this being unlawful is the state law of consent.  Each state has different ages for that.  Also, sometimes, if the parents agree to the dating it can be permissible although its kind of weird and freaky IMO.

By the way, if someone is 18, he or she should be dating people who are around their own age.  Say 17 to 20.  A 14 year old is too young, even if the 14 year old thinks she or he is way mature and ready for it.   It's statutory rape really.

Answer 8

Very very illegal. He could go to jail for a very long time, even if no sexual contact is involved, in most places in the US.

Answer 9

When I was 15 my boyfriend was 21, so I know exactly where you are coming from. He cannot get arrested for going out with you but he can be arrested for statutory rape. If your parents are against it, make sure you are very careful! These people making comments to you about just being amazed an older guy likes you have most likley never been in your position. And for the record we did stay together for 2 years.

Answer 10

You are just amazed that this older guy likes you.

He's pathetic.  He's into you because he can't get anyone his own age.  

I guess it's not illegal.....just really immoral.

Answer 11

The legality of this will depend on the laws of your state.  Based on the laws of CA:

1.  You can date.

2.  He can't do ANYTHING physical with you until you are 16 without risking trouble (edit: holding hands, hugging, and mild kissing is probably OK).

3.  He can't have s*x with you until you are 18.

These laws are probably slightly differnent in every state, and the age of consent is under 18 in several states.  Basically, he should stay a virgin if he wants to date you.  Even if you and your parents are cool with it, its still illegal.