Is it inappropriate to ask a Groom or bride?

Question

Where they are going on their Honeymoon. I was at a celebration at work for someone getting married and a few people said it was a private matter and i shouldnt ask. I wasnt asking for details just the location was that wronge? ididnt think so

Answer 1

The people you work with seem pretty lame. You must work in a bank! :o)

Answer 2

I don't think that's a rude question.. I'd rather have people ask me that then some other types of questions people come up with like..

"Am I invited to the wedding and can I bring a guest?"

"Are you pregnant yet?"

"When are you planning on getting pregnant?"

"How much are you spending on your wedding?"

Those are rude questions.. Yours was not.

Answer 3

I don't think it's inappropriate at all.  What's the big secret?  It's just like asking someone where they are going on vacation.

Answer 4

That's not a private matter at all! It's a totally valid question, and would have shown the bride and groom that you're interested in  their wedding.

Whoever told you that is an idiot.

Answer 5

thats not rude at all.What kind of people do you work with.You werent being rude at all.Honeymoon shouldnt be secretive.

Answer 6

Its really NOT a rude question at all, but maybe the other people knew that they weren't going to have a honeymoon, or maybe the couple couldn't afford it. Sometimes just to save them embarrassment they try to hush things like that.

Answer 7

I don't think it is rude at all. I know my friend was super excited for her honeymoon and was happy to talk about it. Just ask if they are excited for the wedding and then ask what they are doing for their honeymoon and if they are excited for that. I don't know who said it was private... but I think it's fine. Don't worry.

Answer 8

If it is inappropriate, then I have a lot of rude friends and family.  Actually, we have been asked a lot, by a lot of people. I think it just shows that they are interested in your wedding.  As a bride to be, I wasn't bothered at all by the question.

Answer 9

That is really bizarre. Shame on the weird people who made you feel bad for asking. Asking is perfectly okay.  

Answer 10

That's not inappropriate at all. It's just a glorified vacation! No one would hesitate to ask where you're going on vacation, right?

Answer 11

Asking that makes it sound like you're planning shivaree. While I'm not saying it's completely wrong to plan something of the sort, you should NEVER involve the bride and groom in it that crassly. Hence it being in poor taste.

ETA: Given the number of people I've annoyed I should probably clarify: this is why someone would consider it in poor taste, not that it is in poor taste.

Answer 12

There is nothing wrong with asking where they are planning on going. No rules say that you should not.  

Answer 13

I dont see anything wrong with that..thats something most people want to talk about, you werent asking how much they are spending.

Answer 14

no it's not rude, you can ask that question.

Answer 15

I don't think it's that big of a deal.  It's not like you're planning on going with them, or surprise them at their hotel.

Answer 16

not wrong at all, i always ask where people go on there honeymoons, and if they liked it there.

Answer 17

Not at all!    

Answer 18

That is not inappropriate by any means...in fact, it is actually a very common questions.

Who knows...maybe they just wanted to keep it a secret...maybe there are some personal private issues associated with it...with people these days, you just never know...

Answer 19

That's not a rude question!  Before my wedding, everyone kept asking where we were going.  Unfortunately we weren't able to go anywhere, but it's still not a private matter.

Answer 20

No I don't think it is wrong to ask. However if you don't know where or not that they are, I'd say, "Are you going on a honeymoon?". A lot of people asked me where I was going and then I had to do a lot of explaining as to why we weren't. But I didn't think they were being nosey- just jumping to conclusions.

Answer 21

No Way is it private! Everyone else is going to ask. Some people need to relax a little bit! I am getting married in six weeks and I love talking about our plans to go to Monterrey and just have fun for our honeymoon. Don't listen to those people.

Answer 22

No, it is not inappropriate at all!  Most brides and grooms like to share this information anyways!