Is it innapropriate to give a little boy a "purple nurple"?

Question

I know it sounds silly..but I don't know what else to call it (nipple twisting?) But the other day, my husband gave his nephew of 6yrs one right in front of me. Now I know it is supposed to be the common thing amongst older boys and men, but I found myself shocked that it could be performed upon a child...obviously my huband had no sexually perverse intention, as he DID do it in public, but for me, I was actually appalled by this act... especially as someone looking at another doing it to a child...it LOOKs perverse...so I was wondering if this is something normal--that even boy's can be taught this act and have it performed upon them--am I over reacting? or is it something really innapropriate? I know if I have a little boy I would never alow that to be done to him, nor would I let him do that to any other boy...unless he is much older, when there is a better understanding of this peculiar male act.

any suggestions? opinions?

Answer 1

very wrong . I have an 8 and 10 yr old and I would lose it if your husband was near them. he is a grown man that needs help

Answer 2

He was probably just horsing around. 6 is probably too young for physical roughness, though, so he should watch out how strong he might have done it.

Its just for fun. I wouldn't worry about it. It's not sexual at all, that's for sure.  I don't recommend doing it to anyone, really, but you know.

Answer 3

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, if something like that bothers you, right or wrong, talk to your husband about it, he should be understanding of your feelings, and stop.

Answer 4

Not nearly as inappropriate as if he gave it to you.

Men and boys have been doing it to each other for hundreds of years. Don't make a big thing of it. If it wasn't for purple nurples, men wouldn't need nipples at all.

Answer 5

I think your all sick stupid people and I think your an ***! You are such a looser Topas! Pull the broom stick out of your *** and get a life! r****d!

Answer 6

Now-a-days people are offended or appalled at stuff like that all the time. I would tell him NOT to do that again especially in public as someone can view it as inappropriate & you don’t want it to draw negative attention even though his intentions were not perverse. I would be all over my husband had he done something like that in public!

Answer 7

haha it is fine.. it doesnt really hurt.. im a guy, and i get them alot.. its fine and every one jokes around about it..

Answer 8

It is more painful than perverse.  Poor kid.  Your husband deserves a ten minute Indian  Burn for that.

Answer 9

jeez  some of y'all act like he  tried to twist the poor kids nipple off or something, they were horseplaying, and even though id have been aggarvated at him if it was my son it would be because it HURT not because it was perverted or out of line, if have felt the same way if hed given him an india  burn or some other such "male" nonsense.

Answer 10

I don't think it's anything perverse but it is painful. I would smack someone if they did it to my son.

Answer 11

It's bullying behavior and inappropriate for the simple reason that it's not going on between two people of equal status.

If it was your 6yo son and his 6yo cousin, and they both were laughing and having fun, then there's nothing at all wrong with it.

But imagine a 6yo's nipple being twisted by a grown man.  Hardly a fair fight.

Then imagine the confusion in the 6yo's mind when his mother and/or teacher tell him that he owns his own body and that it's not okay for anyone to touch it unless he says so.

Your husband is a bully.

Answer 12

I don't think it's innappropriate.

You're over reacting.

Little boys and men do weird stuff, purple nurples aren't sexual and they were just being goof balls...

That's way better than walking up to you and farting in your ear as you sit on the couch, which is what my nephew is famous for...

Relax...it wasn't a big deal...and if you have a little boy, you'll be amazed at what becomes "normal" by the time he's 5.

You don't realize just how different girls are than boys until you raise one....it's been very interesting for me and I'm only 18 months into it...lol.

Good Luck

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Oh whaaaa  lol, it's his nephew...he didn't do anything wrong... boys will be boys.  Chill out.

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WOW,,,what a bunch of candy asss whiners!!!    

Did all you guys get picked last for dodgeball or what?  

There's a difference between malicious abuse/bullying and horseplay between family members.

This is whats wrong with our country....everyone's gone all candyass and soft and making a BFD over nothing.

Everyone's a victim and everyone sees malicious intent in the most innocent of actions.

I suppose having a lemonade stand would break "child labor laws", and playing tag would be considered "assault"...and god forbid your kid DOES get picked last for dodgeball...he's being bullied and will need months of therapy...for crying out loud.

Answer 13

Someone big humiliating someone little is called bullying. I see it all the time on "America's Funniest Home Videos." People shove their kid's face in a birthday cake, film it, and put it on national tv for the whole country to laugh at.

Would you ever humiliate another for your enjoyment? What kind of sick, sadistic perversion is that? Have a talk with your husband and tell him to pick on someone his own size.

Answer 14

WAY OVERREACTING.  I can see if you asked if it was inappropriate because it hurt the poor kid, but I don't see how anyone can see that as perverse.  Just rough housing and messing around with his NEPHEW.

Answer 15

well first of all purple nurples or what ever you want to call them can cause breast cancer even with men

your husband needs to grow up(no offense)

he is the adult and he needs to realize  that he is going to teach this dangerous 'game' to another child

you are not over reacting but it can be argued that it is a perverse activity

tell your husband to grow up

Answer 16

eww.  freak. lol