Is it just a guy thing?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 2 years now and just recently moved in with one another. Everything is great but there is one issue that i have. My boyfriend looks at p**n all the time on the computer. He doesnt even hide it that well... meaning i could be in the living room or bedroom and he will be on the computer looking at it and quickly close it if i come in the room. I sexually satisfy him but i dont know if its me or not. He knows i dont like it but continues to look at it. I thought p**n was something that you do TOGETHER in a relationship... HELP?!?!?!?

Answer 1

Walk around almost nude a few times. Tell him he doesn't need the p**n when hes got You.

Answer 2

haha you are in the same position as me. I always look at p**n and my girl sees me watchin it but we talked and she says its fine. p**n is like a drug to some men, so I wouldnt worry about it. to be honest, try lookin at mens p**n and see what he says when he walks in the room when your lookin at it. lol try that out

Answer 3

It has nothing to do with you not satisfying hi, its just an addiction he has. If you want to watch it with him show him you don't mind p**n and your ok with him watching it. Eventually he will be ok watching it with you. Right now he feels weird with you and the p**n and its something he is used to. Eventually you can watch it together and he will cut back on it.

Answer 4

i think its healthy and you should enjoy it with him

Answer 5

I have never being into p**n but obviously I have seen it and I don't really know why would someone will just waste time watching it having so many other choices. Anyways back to the deal.....I have heard that most guys will watch p**n and be extremely sexually active until they reach the age of 30 and eventually it will go away but there is nothing much you can do until then. Maybe you can encourage him to do other things that being in the computer, like going to the movies, parks, swimming, workout, join the gym whatever keeps him away from the computer. Anyhow, sorry for my lame response but that's the best that I can come up with  :)

Answer 6

try to enjoy watch it together..

soo he will feel that you are not blame him 10% on his addict..

and gently tell him that watching this it not good

and you don't like it..

Answer 7

what? how is p**n something u do do together? some people just find doing p**n with someone else plain akward.  but here is the truth.  guys get the urge to "spread thier seed"  much more often than girls get turned on, and im pretty sure no girl would be in the mood every single time that thier man wants to ****.  so instead of bothing our women, just take care of it ourselves.  so unless you're willing to have s*x with him every single second of the day at his beck and call, ur just gonna have to deal with it.

Answer 8

I wouldnt take offense to it.

I look at p**n all the time.  I'm married.  Our s*x life comes in bursts it seems.  p**n gets me by during the droughts...and even during the high times in the s*x life, p**n keeps me thinking about s*x with her.  Yes with HER.  Granted many of the girls in the films are hot as h**l, but I find myself more often just thinking "I want to do THAT with her..." (I'm still trying to get her to move outside the "normal" same old same old).  Continuing that thought, it also allows for easier fantasizing about those things I want to do with her that she either wont, or haven't yet.

All those reasons, aside, sometimes I just look at it because I'm bored.  No real sexual goal there.  Just looking at naked women and s*x in general.  Kinda like how other people might oggle art...  

As a side note, if YOU'RE interested in p**n too, make it known and try to be a part of it...especially if he's not hiding his stash well.  My wife is starting to come around with p**n interest herself, but what she'd be interested in, and what I view (nothing TOO crazy mind you) are still a bit different, so I'm having a hard time broaching that topic myself.  If you do some of the legwork concerning this, you might catch him pleasantly off guard.  My wife brought home p**n once and I darn near torn my pants off there...

Answer 9

All dudes look at p**n. Just let him do it. EVERYONE looks at p**n. Its no biggie. Your making to much of a deal out of this!! Just relax.

Answer 10

Do you express interest in viewing it with him? If not , he may feel he has to hide it from you.Once I told my fiance that his secret p**n sessions bothered me ,he has made more of an effort to find p**n we can watch together and doesn't watch it alone  when I am around.The only time he checks it out now is with me or when I am totally out of reach.No more p**n sessions while I cook dinner! Just tell him how you feel and if he is a respectable guy he will oblige.

Answer 11

You boldly state that, you sexually satisfy him. Yet he's always looking at p**n. Something is missing. For some reason he's not satisfied. What he says doesn't matter his actions betray him. There is something he craves that is missing.

What it is I can not say. The best way to gain insight is to watch p**n with him and see what turns him on.If this makes him uncomfortable he probably has a fetish that he doesn't think you share. Could be as simple as you not making the noises he likes. Maybe something a little kinkier. I don't know. I don't even care. I just want you to understand, he's craving something, and it won't go away.



Take note, the one theme that is common to all publishable p**n is, no rejection. If you act disgusted by what he wants to watch he won't want to watch it with you. He won't stop watching it though. It's still missing.

Take the ride. Snuggle up to him when he's watching and ask sweetly if you can watch to. No matter what comes up on that screen, be convincing that you like it. No rejection, no matter what you see, it turns you on. There is no quicker way to find out, what's going on behind his eyes. After that, when you know who he really is, things will be clear.

On the bright side, things could work out far better than you ever thought possible. Keep an open mind.  

Answer 12

Well, no that's not just a guy thing. If my boyfriend does do it, which I doubt considering he doesn't have internet access OR cable :D, he hides it from me well.

It is normal for guys to look at p**n, but your boyfriend seems to be doing a bit much. If it bothers you THAT much you should definitely sit him down and have a serious conversation about it, more than just "I don't like it, stop."

Good luck!

Answer 13

not sure i dont look at p**n. i can see it could be ok if your not together but when you are going out with each other it doesnt make sense. i would talk to him and tell him you would like to do it together.

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Answer 14

he is developing an addiction to p**n and while he loves what you do for him, it is not enough

either you help with the issue, lose the internet or lose him

he will spiral down deeper into the problem if you don't stop it now. if he doesn't care about you and your feelings and the effects the p**n is having on your relationship, then your situation is only getting worse, so you need to get the situation fixed

all the best

Answer 15

he's addicted to cyberporn....happens to many guys out there.

If you are comfortable with p**n, then follow your own advice and watch it together ;)

don't just think he knows you don't like it...Talk to him directly! You are a couple after all.

Answer 16

some guys are p**n addicts, tell him to stop watching it so much.