I love my fiance with all my heart but sometimes i don't understand his ways. We have been friends for 6 years and engaged for 1 1/2 yrs and in a serious relationship for 2 years....the hold up is communication. Most of our relationship was long distance, but now we are now much closer to one another geographically. He is very reserve. He rarely allows ANYTHING to bend him out of shape. Sometimes i don't know if he's angry or not. When i ask how he feels he says he's fine although sometimes i feel he may be upset. I'm worried that this communication issue we are having will be bad for our marriage but at the same time i'm thinking that maybe it will get better as we grow together? Either way it really bothers me that i can't read his emotions or feelings. When i tell him to talk to me and explain that i don't know how he feels (even after an argument) he just says he's fine. The second issue is he gives short blunt answers. Like if i have on a dress he does not like, and i ask why he does not like it, he says he just doesn't. He won't say its too short or it shows too much or anything. As his future wife i want to respect him with my clothing but i'm pretty conservative so nothing was hanging out so i'm confused??? Or if he asks me to do something, and I ask why, he feels he never has to explain anything....this is very annoying!!!!! I want to know why because maybe he can teach me a new way to do something or tell me something i never thought of. I feel that if you can't communicate well, then there is no way to resolve the other million issues in the relationship. His mother says he had been this way all his life, but when you get married you have to alter your personal ways......should i try to adjust to his habits even when he does not want to adjust to mine? How can i get him to talk to me? Will this get better as we spend more time together or is it hopeless? Married people please help!!!!!
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