Is it just me or do other people find it highly irritating when people overly insist on things?

Question

For instance, my aunt if I go over for morning tea will be like "would you like a biscuit" "no, thanks", "are you sure?"" "yes thanks, I'm watching my weight at the moment." "what about a rice cracker" "no thanks", "are you sure"..."yes"....."I've got some home made meusli bars here, would you like one of them" "no thanks, I'm not really eating snacks". GAWD

or like today when I went into the living room and my mum was reading and I said "oh, would watching t.v annoy you" and she said "yes", I said "that's okay, I'll do something else." "I can move." "no thanks, I'm going to do something else." I leave the room....sounds of a door bursting open. "I don't need to be in here you know, you can't watch tv anywhere else." "no thanks, I'm fine." then about 5 minutes later and midway through writing this she comes and says "I'm out of the room now."....."I don't care, I'm doing something else now." GARR.

Can't people just take no for an answer??!?!?

Answer 1

Well maybe they have good intention, just don't know how to express it to you. Maybe your answer should be more elaborate, such as, "You repeatedly offered me stuffs, while I already clearly refuse it, so please stop offering me anything anymore. "

Answer 2

Take a biscuit and pick at it...let you mother move and say thanks.

Answer 3

With the aunt who likes to feed people - Tell her that you've just eaten.  Offering food is a time-honored way of showing hoispitality to visitors.  Just tell Aunt Fatten-them-up that you've just eaten.  Further explanation is no necessary.

With the mum situation - If she responds "yes" about whether your watching the telly would bother her just leave the room politely.  No need to reply at all.  You got your answer

Answer 4

Some older people repeat themselves a lot.  It does get a little annoying because they tend to ask the same question more than once.  You should allow for that.    They also don't feel right if they haven't gotten you something.  My mom is the same way.  Somehow they are conditioned to feed you, whether you want it or not.   You just have to repeat yourself and explain yourself as many times as it takes for them to get the message.  Be more patient with them.

Answer 5

That would be pretty irritating for me, too.  I'm sure I would end up losing it eventually and bursting out with "I SAID I'M DOING SOMETHING ELSE NOW!" or whatever my initial response was.  It would take me awhile to get to that point, but I'd get there!

I don't have any great advice, but, if you're able to have any decent conversations with them at all, you might just ask them straight out why they continue to question you like that and let them know it annoys you.  You might say something like "Do I not speak loud enough?  I was wondering about that because... " and give them an example of what they do to you.  If they're not aware of it, that might make them aware.  It just might be habit for them to quiz people like that - do they do it to other people, too?

Good luck!  That would drive me nuts!

Answer 6

loll, your post was funny...

i'm going to say it's just a matter of patience, something you learn as you grow more.

It' really annoying, i know, but i do it sometimes when i bug my friends for embarassing details (whoops! XD)

Answer 7

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