Here is the situation. I am 24 and my boyfriend is 29. He has a child that is 7. Now we have lived together for over a year now and we have been dating for 3 years. I have met his child only about 7 times over the years. I get along fine with her and she has no problems with me. However every other time I do see his child the kids mom goes crazy and tells my boyfriend that she is going to take him to court to start paying child support, (yes he already takes care of his child, just not by court order), or she will put restrictions on the times he is allowed to call to speak to his child, or she will not let him speak to his child for a few days and tell the child it is his fault. Or do some other deciteful thing. To add on to that when my boyfriend does want to see his child he has to go to their house or take their kid out because she is not really allowed to be here/ or I should say around me. The few times I call my boyfriend when he is at his daughters house and the mom is there she pretty much always has something ignorant to say to me or about me in the background. Also, my boyfriend is still comfortable enough at their house and allowed to be there until what ever time he wants to, and not that it happens alot, but from time to time he will tell me he fell asleep watching tv with his daughter and will come home at 12am. With all of this said I have a problem with her or more with my boyfriend and her relationship. So when he tells me he is going to take his daughter school shopping at 11am and I call him at 2 to see whats up for the rest of the day and he tells me that they just got to the store b/c his child was getting her hair done and he had to wait, okay so that is fine. But then I call him at 6 and he says he is just leaving the mall and who do I hear in the background... Of coarse, his childs mother is there. Why wouldnt he of been told me that? Now I understand that his child is young and wants her mom around but she also likes being with her dad, and she lives with her mom so she is always with her. It would not bother her to go with her dad alone so I can not blame it on that. So if you had a "babies mama" that puts a big dent in your relationship, would you want her around when you were spending time with your kid? Does it sound like they are messing around still? Do women who have kids and are not with the father any more and know that the father is in a real serious relationship still mess with them anyway? Is it just me or is he giving her too much and expecting me to be okay with it? I do not think this is how it has to be just b/c he has a kid with some one else. How am I suppose to be comfortable with this?
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