Is it justifiable to invade a sexual offender's privacy to warn another they're keeping dangerous company?

Question

My ex molested my child. He will be arrested but it hasn't happened yet, legal wheels are in slow motion. I have informed his brother because he has two small girls and I wanted to make sure they were safe, his parents will find out when he gets taken into custody because he lives with them right now. Part of me feels like I should warn the other women he's been dating, in case they have children of their own. Even if I didn't have kids, if I were dating this guy and someone knew he had done something so horrible, I would want someone to tell me, but is it wrong for me to assume others would feel that way also?

After a few tries I guessed his email password and now I have access to these women's email addresses, but haven't done anything yet, because: A. I'm worried that they will not believe me and think I am just some vindictive ex-girlfriend with an axe to grind or B. they will show him what I sent them, and he will come after me for invading his privacy.

If it were you would you want to know? If some stranger, especially an ex girlfriend came to you with this info, would you believe her? Do I have a right to invade his privacy to protect people i don't even know and have no obligation to? The other part of me wanting to do this does come from wanting revenge, because I don't think he deserves to be happy, free, galavanting around with new dates pretending he's a decent human being, while I struggle to put back together the broken child he has left in his perverted wake.

Answer 1

  I hear and understand you to a depth others can only imagine.

  But be very cautious !!!  Talking about it to others, using his name, etc. Can give him his walking papers, if this info is released before he has his day in court, the courts must find him guilty first.  It would be horrible for all, if he walked free, the day you show up for trial.

    After the trial, warn all you can, but as i was warned, putting his face all over the net, will drive him to more secluded area's and make him more of a danger to kids elsewhere.

     The pedophile i had to deal with, got 4yrs in a half way house and was allow out to work from 9-6, because if they sent him back to jail, his life would be in danger, because he was well known in prison for the 7 other kids he had attacked over the yrs.

      I, apparently could have stopped this and had him returned to prison had ...."I", had a lawyer. This was never told to me by the police. He plee bargained down to nothing.  So check that out too.

      He walked, and i went through 11yrs of h**l trying to put my son back together again and worse, explaining to a child why the bad guy got off.

Answer 2

yes u should tell them whether they believe or not is on them. I thinks it bs that he is walkin the streets after what he did. Keep it quiet u hacked his email because under stuipd laws u can get in more trouble for that then he did for his crime but def warn them but be prepared that they wont take it well

Get on the police/ District Attorney make a stink with public officials stallin on child abuse cases is bad for pr spec in election year.

Like Katleen i admire ur  restraint when i have kids anyone who touches them  wont be doin that agan anytime soon. When he does go to prison see if u can inform his guards and other inmates ( but i think thats a given ) then the law of the jungle really kicks in

Also file a civil suit aganst the sob for what he did to ur child make him pay

Answer 3

Not that I am right... but if someone did that to my daughter (and my husband was unable to kill him), I'd plaster the entire Eastern seaboard with his picture with big title under his name in BIG RED LETTERS:  MOLESTER!!  

Answer 4

how would you feel if you don't tell and he does it again?--if you really think he might come after you why don't you talk to police before you do anything or better yet the prosecuting attorney office

Answer 5

The others probably won't believe you at best.  At worst, he will find out that you have been trying to ruin his reputation and lash out at you or others close to you.  It's probably not worth going any deeper than you already have.  Leave it to the authorities to do what is right and you have done your part in cleaning up the neighborhood.

Answer 6

It depends on how many other people know about his situation.  You could always create a fake email account and email them anonymously and tell them that you're worried for the safety of them and their children. The problem is, if he knows you're the only one who knows about this, he can come back at you. But at least you put the ball in their court and they can choose what they want to do with it.

Answer 7

if you do and he finds out then is found not guilty he can sue you for everything you own and will own in the future