Is it legal to follow your own child?

Question

My mother can be a bit much sometimes but this is the lowest thing that she's probably done.

Tonight when I told her that I was going for a walk and that I'd be back soon she FOLLOWED me without me knowing.

Even if this is not illegal, is there any advice anyone can give me?

Answer 1

Its legal for her to but kind of insane. I'd be pretty upset that my mother doesnt trust me and thinks that she has to follovv me everyvvhere.

Answer 2

wow crazy! its a trust issue though, if she trusted you she wouldnt need to follow you talk to her and ask her about it, calmly and rationally

Answer 3

Ugh... not fun at all. When I was 19 I was still living with my mother, except I had my room taken away by 18 (since I was an adult) and lived in the living room - slept on the couch. I was legally an adult and of course had stuff to hide. I one day saw a lot of my stuff missing, didnt think much about it... i thought I misplaced it. It continued to happen, and things were misplaced... I KNEW I hadnt done it... I asked my mom. It was her. I told her to give me my privacy. She looked me right in the eyes and said "You dont have privacy in this house." SO I left.

My point is: I feel ya.

But there is a difference in our stories. Your mother wanted to know where you were going out of concern. My mother was just snoopy... especially when she shouldnt have been - I was an adult. I hope you can understand that sometimes parents do things such as your mother did simply out of concern and worry. She doesn't want you hurt, so followed you to make sure no one hurt you and to make sure you didn't go anywhere different than what you told her. Which could get you hurt too. If she was like my mom she would have told you that you couldn't go for a walk at all. But your mother didn't. She wanted to give you your freedom because she loves you, but didn't want you hurt either because she loves you.

Does that make sense? Its hard to understand sometimes, but I am pregnant and I already love my daughter sooo much! And she isnt even born yet. To imagine her in her teens saying she was going for a walk outside... where there are streets, people, etc... and knowing things that have happened to me on random walks (I was chased once when I was about 14) scares the c**p out of me! But I wouldn't tell her no because I wouldn't want her to hate me and think I was taking away her freedom.

It's hard on you, but it is also hard on your mother :( Even if you didnt do anything to make her not trust you. You have no idea how much she loves you. A mother's love for her child is endless and the greatest feeling you/anyone will ever experience. She is just worried. Maybe you can have a calm talk with her? And tell her that you understand her concern, but you know you are careful and wouldn't put yourself in a bad position.

Good luck :(

EDIT: it is legal btw.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you need to have a talk with your mom about why she doesn't trust you, let her know,, you know she followed you, and you want to know why...communication is the key,,,

Answer 5

she must not trust you which means she doesn't trust that she herself has done a good job raising you to be responsible. Maybe you could sit down with her and explain to her that you want to make good choices and it'shard for you to do that when she won't give you the room to do so on your own. Tell her she has done a good job raising you and that you wouldn't do anything to ruin her trust in you but how can you prove that if she doesn't give you trust to start with.

Answer 6

Have you done some thing to make her this way?  a mother does not usually do this for nothing.  Lot of previous trouble?

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Answer 7

haha...she told you that she'd followed you??  The real question is what you did to make her not trust you to take a walk???

I'm sure it's perfectly legal for a mother to follow her daughter...in fact, kids would be in much better shape if their parents followed them around!

Ask her if you did something to make her not trust you...

Answer 8

Talk to your mum and ask her why she doesn't trust you enough. Let her know that you trust her and that she should trust you too.

hope i helped x