Is it me or does my boyfriend really have a drinking problem ?

Question

He say's it's my opinion he drinks too much. He has been drinking heavily since his teens, drinks daily (average 4-6 drinks/beers daily, then up to ten drinks/beers in several hours about three times a week. At times I have been horrified ny the amount he can drink in one evening without passing out, puking, or dying. I've seen him drink nearly a litter of vodka (along with beer) in one evening. Scary ! He says he has tolerece, can quit, it's his culture, I nag, I'm wrong. Does he really believe he doesn't have a problem, or knows it and just denies it to himself ? How do you get through to someone like that ? Anyone from AA out there with feedback ? He thinks he does not have a problem b/c he holds down a job, pays bills, etc... and does not get staggeringly drunk daily (only about once or twice a week) Ok, so is this just my opinion that he drinks too much ? He admitted to going to AA years back but dropped out.

Answer 1

NO!!! But it is destroying his liver....

You need to ask yourself: What defines a drinking problem....

Does drinking cause him to miss work?

Does drinking cause him to become an INACTIVE or dangerous member of society?

Does drinking cause him to hurt his relationships?

Does drinking cause him to hurt himself?

in my opinion...

- Is alcohol bad  -  YES

-Should he drink less to live longer and be healthy - YES

Answer 2

Something like this just came up with my Dad. he drinks like your guy and works everyday.

he had to have sugery a few weeks ago and i ask the surgeon if he had restrictions and told him he drank 6-8 beers daily(that was a conservative estimate). the surgeon looks at my Dad and says if you drink that much everyday your an alcoholic. my Dad was so mad/embarassed he stopped drinking!!! first he cut back to 3 beers a day, then by time for his surgery he had quit and has stayed quit for 3 weeks after. so i guess it really was just that he liked the stuff.

Answer 3

Yeah, it does sound like he has a drinking problem.

My mother had a drinking problem, and what I did to get her to see how much she drinks is that I saved the bottles, and showed them to her after a few days, just so she could actually see how much she was drinking.

I don't know if that would help, but it worked for me. She quit drinking after that.

Answer 4

Yes he drinks too much.

Ask him to not drink any alcohol for just one week.  That'll tell you whether or not he's addicted.

Answer 5

Yes, he has a problem. There isn't much you can do about it though. He's still in denial. He has to want help before anything can really be done. If it bothers you that much, leave him, or boot him out. Giving him an ultimatum won't work either. Until he wakes up and smells the roses, he won't admit that he has a problem. It usually takes a tragic accident to wake up an alcoholic.

Answer 6

That's definitely a drinking problem.  4+ drinks a day?  That's pretty bad really...

Answer 7

Yes he has a problem. an alcoholic is someone who always had alochol on the mind. It sounds like your boyfriend does. He should not drink to get drunk. He is abbusing alochol.

Answer 8

Sounds like a bit much. Why are you still with him?

There's a show on A&E called 'Intervention.' It shows some people who very much do have serious problems, and sometimes they don't end so well. Maybe you could get him to watch it and it'll put his habits into perspective.

Answer 9

It sounds to me like your dating someone in there mid to early 20's and if you are I would say that even though they are well on the road to a serious problem there is a good chance he is just having fun. A lot of guys just like to live a little while they can. I know I was in the same boat as him and quit all together once the big 30 started looking back at me and I new it was time to make some life changes. Now if your talking like your boyfriend is 40+ and been doing this nightly since his teens well then you might want to start looking for a new man.

Answer 10

I am not from the AA, but it seems he really has a problem and frankly so do you in that you are still with such a loser.

Not defending your boyfriend - but AA isn't for everyone. He may have sought help but found them to be a bit too 'religious', I have heard this from several people.

Answer 11

yea he's an alcoholic