Is it me or ??

Question

i have an aquaintance who every year throws a bday party for her daughter, she just turned 3 last week. she throws these really huge parties and invites all her friends but there are only about 3 kids her daughters age including mine. For her daughters first bday she wouldn't let her daughter touch the cake like we all do to get that moment for the first bday.

The party is NEVER centered around her daughter, its just a huge gathering where they spend about 1k on food and hourdourves for everyone.

does anyone else think that the mother is being selfish and just showing off ?

Answer 1

Well, in my family, all the kids' birthdays are an excuse for the adults to get together. I dont know why, but thats how all my aunts and uncles are. Including my dad.

Is there any way that you could 'help' her out with future birthday parties? Offer to invite some people for her that her daughter knows, maybe make some kid friendly snacks and get her her own cake? I realize that the first birthday is supposed to be all about that sweet baby turning into a toddler and ruining a cake to celebrate that, but thats the past. Try to make her birthdays as kid friendly as possible from now on. Some parents dont really care about throwing a party for a child because they think they are too young to really remember it or appreciate it. Others just look at a party as a chance to get together with everyone they know and love. Either way, try to make the best of it and try to get it centered around the child. Its the most you can do. Of course, you could say something to her, but i think she may take offense to that and you will no longer be a friend to her or her daughter.

Good luck!

Answer 2

She seems to like to have all the attention on her and very little on her daughter. This is usually a very sad situation where if it keeps happening throught the childs life she will notice and feel sad or neglected. I don't think there  is any way to help but to encourage your daughter to be the girls friend and help her through this hard time.

Answer 3

Eh.

Some moms don't have parties for their kids at all.

I think this is very nit picky :/

Answer 4

To begin, my two kids, including my one year old who has her first birthday party in two days, also don't get the regular chocolate cake everyone else gets.  I bake them a healthy, diabetic carrot cake that my family makes fun of me for.  I just don't feel either are ready for that much sugar so soon.  We also invite many people to our kids' birthday parties, but the party is centered on them.

As for your friend, or acquaintance, I think it is fine for her to throw these parties, and it is unfortunate that there aren't many children, but perhaps there aren't many children in the family, or her friends don't have many children.

I think she must like throwing parties if she spends that much on them.  Maybe the big parties are for the family and/or friends, and/or maybe they have a personal family party for the daughter that you don't see.

It is always easy to misjudge the intentions of others when you are not directly in the situation.  Perhaps you wish you could have the type of parties that she does, and that it hits you because of jealousy.

Whatever the case, if it bothers you that much, just simply decline to go.

Answer 5

Showing off is what she's doing.

Answer 6

Birthday parties are mostly for the parents, until maybe age 6 or so.

Until then, the kid prob'ly doesn't even understand what a birthday is.

I know I can't remember any of my first twenty birthdays.

Answer 7

Yeah, the party is supposed to be about the kids.  Selfish.

Answer 8

My kids are 3 and 5 and mostly we also have adults which is family and close friends but the party is about them. Of course I don't spend that much! YIKES.....

Seems like she is showing have and selfish.

ALSO by age 3 a child totally understands what their birthday is and my kids help plan their parties. For the 1st and 2nd year I decided everything but now what we do and the theme is all them.