Is it my city or me I have the problem with??

Question

I'm a 22 year old girl who has lived in this small city in a country in Europe (that will remain nameless) all my life. I feel like I have walked every street 200,000 times, which I probably have. I've been to every restaurant and club 100's of times and I know most faces on the street. The weather here is always rainy every year. Right now I look out the window it's July and the sky is grey, its cold! I am thinking about buying a house, but should I stay here, in the small grey town I know so well? My family who I dearly love live here. What do you think about it? Thanks :)

Answer 1

You have your answer already... You are 22 years old.. it's time to leave home and go where you want to go.  Most people have family they dearly love... but when they can't stand the area or the town or whatever... then they leave home and make their own way in the world... because some day your family will be gone and you will be alone anyway... and by then, you will be stuck in a country you hate.

Answer 2

I'd say you've outgrown your city.  

Before buying a house I would suggest putting some of your money toward traveling.  Sometimes "home sweet home" can seem like a cage because it's our human instinct to seek new experiences.  If you don't leave home once in awhile you may start to feel claustrophobic and become depressed and/or irritable.  Buying a house in a town you're not happy in will probably only make matters worse, making you even more miserable as a result.

Traveling may also reveal to you whether you would be truly happy with your seemingly bland hometown settings by giving you the insight you need to compare what another place may have to offer.  

In the end I would also suggest you follow your heart's instincts on the matter.  You would miss your family if you lived far off and they would miss you too; however, I'm sure they would rather see you live your life excitedly than to see you discontentedly go through the motions of the day.

Answer 3

Dear, that is life. No matter what kind of big city you are living in, once you have a family and regular job, life will be boring. That is why holidays are so important for us. It is a way to get out and get a change of a scene.

I was born in Taiwan and I lived in Taipei for over 10 years, which is one of the biggest cities in Asia. We got sunshine everyday in summer and temperature over 35 degree. We still trying to get out of the country and spend around 30000 euros to see what is Europe is like (the heat in Taiwan is probably one of the reason we do so). Now I have a job in Newcastle, England. I start missing Taiwan’s sun and warmness because weather in England is just like you described mostly grey and cool. I guess it is just depend on everyone’s prospective.

There are many other things you can do if you try. When I was in the University, I had a friend spend 1 and half months to do part time jobs and earned over 1800 pounds (he had 3 part times and UK wage is pretty high). He did not spend any of that except basic living. Then he spent all that money in 2 weeks to travel around Europe, bought a diamond for his mother as a gift, gambled a little bit and on girls before he went back to his country. (In that summer, I spent most of my summer to study for GRA but I did not even take the exam because I got accepted for master degree. Borring summer but I kept myself busy)

Take a holiday from whatever you are doing, travel to Asia if you have the money. Otherwise, just try to have a road trip or something. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Go east go west home is the best .

This phrase u might have listened

So stay tune & have a break . Go for Vacations , u will urselves realize