Is it my fault or its his fault?

Question

Ok....preety stupid problem here but i really need to know from somebody else whose fault it is.. My boyfriend bought a magazine last month, he got fired from his job, he found another one. Long story short he was kind of busy and had some problems. I tried to be there for him but he acted very strange. Most of the time he was mad at me, he was screaming or rude. He was like very distant from me. I was thinking that is because he has all this things now - the magazine, the new job.. but i tried to be patient with him and i just waited. 2 days ago he just called me told me to come home so that he can take the car, i asked him where he wants to go and he just hang up on me. When i came home he started screaming to me that if he says that he needs the car i`m supposed to be there if i`m not busy, and i dont have to ask why he needs the car. After that we had a terrible fight about our relationship... so did i do something wrong..now we dont talk and he said he is going to move out. but he is still here. should i give him more time or what? i`m kind of confused...

Answer 1

It all depends what kind of problems he is having.But still you are not to blame for his problems.And what has magazine to do with all of this?Just remind him what he said about moving out.

Answer 2

His fault based on what you said...Throw his sh8t out of the house...Jerkkkkk

Answer 3

I dont know what a mnagazine has to do with anything, but he sounds stressed out, he needs to calm down and get communicating with you, the only way a relationship lasts is by clear open honest communication.

Answer 4

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first of all, he sounds like an ***, but i can probably understand why. he just lost his job, and the way the economy is going, i can imagine the stress he's feeling. and although he has a new job, he's probably not as happy there as he was at the other place, maybe pay-cut, the environment etc. still that's no reason to treat you like sh*t, but ppl handle stress in different ways. try talking to him and if he keeps giving you attitude, then just leave him alone for a bit. if he wants to move out, then let him. if after that he's still acting like a jerk, then just let him go and move on. your probably better off. do you always want to deal with him acting like this every time something difficult in life happens to him?

and this is sooooooooooooooo not your fault, why would you even question that?

If it wer me (and i can be a b*tch) i would of totally went off on him for the comment about the car, especially if it's YOUR car! just don't let him walk all over you, if he keeps it up, get rid of him.

Answer 5

geeez people is so weird....he has lots of pressure now, and he attacks the one he loves? not right but **** happens ...give him a lot of space! take a short trip away from him, if he decides to move, well, move on n find someone better for you

Answer 6

He sounds like a total butthead. I'd dump him and find someone better, which shouldn't be too hard.

Answer 7

Sounds like a jerk. You better not invest too much in this controlling loser. Life is not going to get better if you do.  

Answer 8

unless your withholding important information, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, he sounds really rude, tell him you think he's being rude, and if he continues this ****, break up with him, really a boyfriend who says to a girlfriend that she can't question him when he asks for something just really needs to chill out

Answer 9

what? he bought a magazine? your question is sorta vague.

Answer 10

And he can take your car and you can't ask where he is taking it why?

Sounds to me like he is seeing someone else and picking a fight with you so he can have a reason to stay out longer than normal.

Question isn't who is right but rather...WHY do you still want to be with this guy?

Answer 11

He is clearly in the wrong.

Your car you decide where it goes.

At present he is under a lot of stress and he is taking it out on you. That is itself is not fair but understandable. You lash out at the ones you love sometimes because they are close. Not saying it is right, but it does.

If he feels like he needs to leave then give him an ultimatum otherwise you will stay together and possibly it will work out but convenience is a factor as to why he is still there.

It is not a good situation to be in and not easy to give advice. part of me thinks run, but part of me thinks the stress is causing this. It has only been a month, give it a some time i think.A storm sometimes just needs to be weathered, which is never easy, but do heed the warning signs

Answer 12

it's his fault and he should not talk to you like that.  tell him to leave and mean it.  it's not your fault he lost his job, it's his.  let him move out.  i doubt he'll go because he knows he can walk all over you.

Answer 13

   I would have to say that you are being way to tolerant of this fool, you would be lucky if he did leave, however I was a bit confused about what a magazine has to do with his attitude, or why you felt the need to share that I'm sure in world it has some meaning.

  It seems that you know who is at fault here and perhaps you are just seeking some affirmation because you can't trust your own mind at this time,

  I say let him go help him pack, kick him to the curb, he will come back begging, and apologizing, and only his behavior will tell you if he is sincere or scared but you have to stand up to him and demand the respect that everyone deserves Good Luck

Answer 14

what magazine has to do with anything? and whose car was it? if it was his car he had all the rights to yell at u. if  u re using someone else's car u return it on request. without interrogating the person why he needs it