Is it my fault that I couldn't come?

Question

I'm 18 and I'm in a relationship with my first serious girlfriend. We'd spent time making out, and for the first time this weekend we were 'pleasuring' one another, if you see what I mean. Thing is, I've always done it myself by just rubbing through my boxer briefs, as I loved the feel of the soft material. When it came to my girlfriend doing it, I couldn't come. I felt very nervous, but I didn't enjoy the feel of her hand against my skin that much either. Is this normal? Is this my fault for the way I've pleased myself in the past, or is it likely that I was just too nervous? I'm really embarrassed about it and I didn't know what to say to my gf.

Answer 1

I've been down this road before... Try to stop touching yourself. You've got used to your hands and when you girl does it, it don't feel as good. Try leave yourself alone for like a month. Don't even touch yourself unless you're peeing or taking a shower. After a month, you will feel a BIG difference in sensation when your girl play with your toy... She gonna enjoy it more too!

Answer 2

it's normal, you just know your body and she doesn't, this is where communication comes in. what's wrong with saying "that feels good" and "do that",, or "let me show you how i like that"?

Answer 3

it was just your fear, and being nervous, talk it out, tell her what you enjoyed, and that you wish to try it again. you will get use to her..

Answer 4

No:you were to much used to your own technique and obviously over anxious:stage fright:just explain to her how you used to do it.And you did not enjoy the feel of her skin .You need to communicate or this will fail big time.

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Answer 5

Well, you should show her what you have been doing. We are all individuals and some things work for some guys and other things dont. Women doing handjobs... some a experts.. some you just get the sense that they arent ejoying themselves, dont know what they are doing and just want you to get off so that they can stop becuse their hand is getting tired... now that would be enough to prevent me from ejaculating... so you see... communication is the key. YOu can actually talk.. you can demonstrate what you like.. you can just do it in front of her and let her watch you blow your lid .... the possibilities are endless!

Personally I think you should change technique to using your hand with some ky warming gel... that stuff is sensational for he and for her!

Answer 6

stop drinkin Hennessy and show ur girl wat u like so u can *** next time lol