Is it my parent's fault?

Question

I just turned 18 and I feel I have a load on my back for some reason. Anyway, I'm the oldest of 3 and I feel that they look up to me and I don't have a problem with that because I want to be the best I can be for them. The problem is that they're not being raised like I was. With me, my mom was a single mom (so they're me half-siblings), I grew up Christian, I grew up having everything I wanted, and so much more. But I see them and they're into material things and they're so disrespectful with my parents. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is if I can do anything to help my parents? Is there anything I can say to my brother and sister? Do I want to take care of things that are out of my control?

Answer 1

Tell them that u dont like the way there treating your parents and then tell your parents that they deserve respect from the younger kids and  to make them give it to them

Answer 2

my family is the same way i have to pay rent, car and insurance i work a full time job and about to go to school which i have to pay for...my parents not only paid for my sister to go to college for 5 years they paid for my bro to go to a $40,000 a year college which he dropped out of his second year....so they both have thrown away bundles of money live at home and never help aroudn the house...i'm the oldest and it sucks... but that's the way your parents raised them and tey're their problem now

Answer 3

you should talk to your sister and brother and tell them mom and dad get you things that you need and want you shouldnt treat them like how you have been being disrespectful to them and that they shouldnt follow the worlds croud in stead you should follow what you know the right thing is to do instead of the wrong thing and be grateful that you have good parents because some people in the world do not have very good parents well i hope i helped you as much as possible  

Answer 4

Sweetie the best thing you can do is lead by example. God will see the whats going on. Pray about it everyday and do all you can to be a positive role model in these kid's life. Maybe you can take them somewhere on the weekends and you can have a talk with them about what they want out of life and whats important. It may be better to do this individually, they may not respond as well in front of each other. These changes will not happen over night but you can plant a seed that will grow. You seem like a very well rounded person and I think its great that you want to help this situation. Don't give up and don't stress out! When things seem out of control don't forget God has a plan!

God bless you!

Answer 5

Your younger siblings have been raised differently than you, as you admitted.  There isn't anything you can do to change their behavior.  They have been allowed to act and talk like this their whole lives, so it is the norm for them.  Don't worry about them.  They have two parents to take care of them.  Move on with your own life and set an example that they will hopefully be able to see, respect, and duplicate.  

Answer 6

try sitting them down and telling them how they are acting tell them you dont like it if they treat you the same as your parents they might not listen but if they are nice with you they probably will listen

Answer 7

i know that this will be hard to hear but you don't have any control here.  Set the best example that youcan and maybe they will learn from you.

Answer 8

TALK TO YOUR SIBLINGS. BEING MATERIALISTIC ISN'T GOOD. IT CAN BE HERE ONE DAY AND GONE THE NEXT! TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL WITHOUT YELLING AND HOLLOWING. AND BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR SIBLINGS N THE LONG RUN THEY WILL APPRECIATE YOU!  

Answer 9

not really if you say something to your parents they'll be offended

and if you say something to the kids, they'll think you're a *****.

id just let it go if they like being disrespected so be it, eventually they'll get tired and put their foot down

Answer 10

just try to be a good role model for them

Answer 11

exersice can help relive anger for me or try yoga

Answer 12

Depending how young they are they might grow out of it. But if you just keep being the "good" daughter toward your parents you'll keep your rightful place as their favorite, and maybe after seeing you get first pick and more gifts at Christmas they'll straighten up more.

But it's not your parents fault, it's not always as easy as not being strict enough toward kids.