Is it natural for a teenager to be attracted to men who are twice her age?

Question

I'm in my mid-teens and I frequently have crushes on men who are much older than me. (In fact, the last time I fell for someone my own age was about 6 years ago.)

I mostly have these feelings for people I know (which gets frustrating -__- , because it obviously makes some day-to-day situations reeeaaally awkward), but when I think of the celebrities and even fictional characters from stories and movies that I've ever admired, I notice that all of them have been middle-aged.

I've been interested in some of my teachers, coaches...my parents' friends and co-workers. It's incredibly distracting - and it makes me feel weird, but, no matter how hard I try, I can't control it. **How do I deal with this?**

Can anyone think of a reason behind a teenager's desire to be with a man who is many years her senior? I don't know what it is for me. Maybe I'm delusional, and it's not like I'd be to relate to an adult, but I still fantasize about having an actual relationship with one.

Answer 1

Maybe because you don't connect with people your own age. You might think at a higher level than they do and are attracted to people who you think could understand you. Or you just like older men better because they are more attractive to you physically. Just don't start having s*x with them at random or you'll get in trouble. And maybe you should mention it to your parents...just so they are aware.

Answer 2

it is okay to attract. attraction is only admiration. you admire them bcoz of their talents, career or stability in life.. just control your feelings.. you might hurt them if they fall with someone younger than them or they might hurt you in the future.. and at your age, you will have more opportunities to meet better than them and understand you..

Answer 3

IT'S NOT NORMAL, IT'S SICK

Answer 4

it is normal dont worry about it everybody gets crushes on people who are twice theyre age dont worry about it honestly

Answer 5

Welcome to being normal.  There are differing opinions as to WHY it is, but the fact remains that it is quite common and normal for this to happen.  IF yu want to know the why of it, it's really no big secret.  Older guys are more mature, and well-grounded in their lives.  Boys your age have a tendency to think with a part of their anatomy that isnt on their shuolders, and that is not what you are wanting.  For some it's also the 'daddy' image, someone big and strong and older that will protect you.  In either case, don't worry about it.  You're completely normal, and like most things taht happen at your age, the feelings will probably change as you get a bit older.

Answer 6

how old r u?

Answer 7

Dont worry i get like this a few times. I think im like it because guys around our ages arent mature and understanding like older guys. Its cos the have pasted the childish point and start thinking logically and stuff :) x

Answer 8

please pray god and pray to show you the right path of live. character is more important. everything follows.

Answer 9

Usually when a teen girl is attracted to older men it is because she is actually looking for a father fugure. Is your father in your life?

You may be attracted to older men because they are financialy stable and have stuff. Just watch out because older men can take advantage of you.

Answer 10

Is it "normal", I don't know.   Is it common, absolutely!

I remember being really attracted to Patrick Steward when I was young when he was Captain Picard and King Triton from The Little Mermaid (but I was embarassed to admit that one to my friends)

I'm pretty sure all women are attracted to power and intelligence and it's uncommon to find those things in young men.  Crush all you want be remember that acting on these can be very risky.  Many older men are married and if you act on these instincts, you could ruin families and get them jail time.

So I say, enjoy your fantasy and when the time is right and you are more mature, you will find a man around your age that excites you the same way, I did.

Answer 11

it's very normal and I have the same problem. the older guys are mature, drive, hot, but want some things I don't :(

Answer 12

you probably feel unconfortable around the people the same age. Try going out with somone the same age as you then you might feel different about people older than you. This is a very unusal suitiation to be truthful but i wish you the best of luck!

Answer 13

Well i am pretty messed up just to tell you but i often like guys older than me by up to like 8 years older and i am 15...its not really wierd or awkward for me though because i will flirt with them or whatever if i like them! But the guys i like are not my parents friends or teachers, one was my moms friends son though and he was like 21.... My parents are divorced btw