Is it natural to have a sexual fantasy?

Question

I told my boyfriend that him having s*x with 2 girls is a big turn on for me. He asked if i will join, i said no and that all i want is watch. He says the only thing about this is that I might lose trust on him which he doesn't want to jeopardise as he is very committed to me. But if it makes me happy he said he will do it for me. Would there be something wrong with me by suggesting this?

Answer 1

Sexual Fantasy.

I have so many and they cover such strange things I often wonder if I should have locked up myself. And then I recall that's also part of one of my fantasy's.  

As for the boyfriend and two women.  

If its what you want then go for it providing you can find two women willing to have a spectator.

Yet I have to agree with the boy friend.

Its easy before the fact to say all is good.  Yet once they are all naked and he is going for it, he is right up there and he is kissing these two women. The heat is high, (I must stop as I am getting excited)

I suspect you may not in fact like seeing him enjoying these other women.  h**l for all you know one of them or both may in fact be better at it than you. He may in fact arrange a private revisit.

If all works out OK that is good but once it has happened and if events don't go as you wish, how are you going to undo the pain. To top it off you will know it was all your doing. You cant even point the finger at him.  

It’s a big risk for a single fantasy.  

Answer 2

threesomes are over-rated according to many people, including myself.

But if you trust your boyfriend and believe he will not develop feelings for the girls he is having s*x with, then why not....experiment and see for yourself whether this is the lifestyle for you.

BTW- it is natural to have any kind of sexual fantasy. Following through with it is a different story all together. Sometimes, you have to be careful what you wish for. Trust and loyalty is the key!

Answer 3

unless you  want to lose your boyfriend i would suggest not doing it

Answer 4

personally I think i would prefer girl on girl and forget the BF......I'm sure that he is not complaining as it's probably his ultimate fantasy....

whatever you do, do for yourself and your needs, not his!

Answer 5

Well, what you propose might be a bit questionable. You might want to ask yourself if you consider pleasure important in itself. If you do, them might I suggest that with this view you fail to see that life and happiness means more than pleasure. "True love" in my opinion means that a person desires another as a "good" and desires above all that person's love in return for his or her own love, and is not merely as an object of appetite. Selfish love would seem to only desire something to satisfy one's own needs. Your bf is concerned that you might lose trust in him. Trust is based on the characteristics of durability and reliability. You might want to reflect on how your fantasy creates a weakness in your relationship instead of durability, and might even be characterized as irresponsible instead of reliable.