Is it necessary to have a bridal shower? what is the point?

Question

Is it necessary to have a bridal shower? what is the point?

Answer 1

It is not necessary.  But you can have a "bridal shower" which is not typical and maybe ask friends/family to go do something fun with you and then go out to dinner.  Instead of bringing you a present they can just cover their own expenses for the day and you can enjoy the pleasure of their company!!  

Answer 2

If no one offers to give you a shower then you don't get a shower.

Miss Manners tells us that it is gracious and generous to host a party so as to shower some OTHER family with gifts, but greedy to solicit gifts for members of your own family. You can HINT that you'd LIKE for someone to give a shower, rather like you might hint that you'd like a 'surprise' birthday party. Relatives can even offer to help [like pay 100% and do all the work] if some non-relative will be kind enough to act as host.

In short, no.  

Answer 3

It isn't necessary, but is common. The point is usually that the bride gets lingerie and stuff for the wedding night and honeymoon.

Answer 4

It's not necessary, but many women (and a growing number of couples) have one. Basically, it started as a party where the other women close to the bride - family and friends - could give her things to help her start out her new home. This was back when women usually lived with their parents until they married.

Now, the tradition is still around, but a shower is mostly a nice way to get together with close friends and family, give gifts (either personal or housewares) to the bride (or the couple), and just celebrate the upcoming marriage.

Some women prefer not to have one, others have several with different groups of friends or relatives.

Answer 5

The tradition is something like women get together to "shower" the bride with gifts.  The point, basically, is to receive more gifts.  It's a good way to get a house started, but it seems greedy to me to ask your guests to buy you multiple presents.  I chose not to have one, as I felt that my guests should not be burdened with buying two gifts for my fiance and I.  Most were okay with the decision, and secretly, I think, welcomed it, but a couple people didn't understand why we didn't want lots of gifts for free.  Go with what you want.  

Answer 6

it is not necessary but it is just something fun to do to get the couple off on ther right start with things that they need

Answer 7

It is not necessary but it is tradition.  I have never know a bride to be who didn't have a bridal shower.  It is given by the bridesmaids.  It is just to get the bride and groom to be off to a good start.  You are showering the bride to be with gifts.

Answer 8

I agree with the above answers. The whole point is to make sure your house together is fitted with daily things you'll need.

Me & my husband lived together before we got married so i decided to NOT throw a wedding shower b/c we had everything we needed. We also didn't register anywhere b/c it's along the same lines... we had sheets, plates, cups, dinnerware, furniture, bathroom stuff... it just seemed pointless and more guests were inclined to bring things that THEY thought about for us rather than us just giving them a registery gift. For instance, since we're huge penn state fans, a family member made a basket and filled it with blue and white items for penn state games like a blue fleece blanket, white gloves, a new penn state hat, etc..  and we really enjoyed it!  your guests have to think about you guys and not just want you want...

don't know if this helps!

but no, you don't need a shower.. :)

Answer 9

it is not necessary, but a good thing about it, is, that you can get all the presents out of the way before the wedding instead of having all the gifts be given to you at the wedding and then having to open them all in front of all your guests...that takes away time from dancing and socializing.  

Answer 10

no its not neccessary to have a shower I didnt bother as Im not into that type of thing start as you mean to go on if its not what you want dont have one!

Answer 11

It is not necessary I guess. But it is a way for all the girls to get together and do a little celebrating for the wedding. Also, it is a great way to get a few extra gifts. It's just for fun.

Answer 12

The point is to let your family (traditionally) or the female friends of the bride (hen shower) have another celebration, and to provide the couple or the bride with items which they/she will need. Now adays it's just the first part. And it's not necessary if a) your family and friends are really understanding about this sort of thing OR b) you really don't care about cutting them out of the celebrations.  

Answer 13

Its not necessary. Its just a way to help the couple set up their house.