Is it normal for a 14 year old not to have a best friend?

Question

I dont have a best friend all I have is friends

They dont really like me...i guess

They dont invite me to:

the movies

the mall

their house

or anything!

Is it normal for me not to have one?

I feel so left out and I hate it. I start to cry.......help...

Answer 1

Well there is always the question of "What is normal?" but if you mean "Does it happen all the time?" then I think probably yes it does.

I don't have a "Best friend" now and I didn't have one when I was 14 - like you, all I had was friends. I seem to remember that we did hang out a bit, but at that time everyone is going through their own changes. It's like "Hey, I'm not a kid anymore, but I'm not a grown up either, but it won't be too long before I am and then what am I going to do?"

Your dealing with that - and so are all your friends (and quite often the ones who look like they're having the least trouble are really having the most) So as long as you can all have a good time when you are together then it's all good and you will ride out the storm ok.

I guess it all depends where your life takes you but for me, there are only about 2 or 3 friends from when I was 14 that I still actually see much of - and even then we are in different parts of the country. As life has gone on I have made new friends and the friends I understand the most are those I've had since I was about 18 or 19 (including those guys from earlier on).

Although you might feel left out now (and it does suck) I think this will improve over time, don't get too depressed if you find yourself alone. In my view there are much worse ways to spend your time than in your own company doing something you enjoy, but it is always nice to be able to talk to other people (friends or not) so whenever you do have the chance, go for it!

Above all remember this - life will generally throw up some good stuff for you but you may need to wade through some s**t to get to it!

Take Care - I will all come good :-)

Answer 2

You don't base by age on having a best friend.

You base them on relationship. And you usually start to know a person really well when you're with them or known them for a long time.

You will have your ups and down and trials in life. Having lots of friend at your age means that you've got potential to be a good friend to others. Liking a person is also different in trusting. Those friends who only hang out are just for companion and show offs. But a best friend will be there for you in any time of your life especially in hard times.

It's normal for your young age not to have a best friend for now and don't feel so left out because it's them who's missing out on having a good person.

Concentrate on your studies and continue to meet different people. Don't get hang up on a particular group of people.

Answer 3

Why don't you invite them to go do something?  Plus, your friends might not be that social, and it's not your (or their) fault that they don't have random outings.  Like I have 2 groups of friends, and one of them has an outing or party every other week, and my other group of friends only has parties for their birthdays, only goes to the movies when a really good movie comes out, etc.  It's perfectly fine not to have a best friend, if you're not friendless.  One of my close friends has a philosophy where she doesn't believe in best friends, only friends and close friends.  If you know that your "friends" are going to places without you and purposely not inviting you, then they aren't really your friends. Try to meet new people that are going to be real friends to you.

Answer 4

wow... i have the same problem... yea, i have lots of "friends," but it feels like they only want to be my friend when their better friends arent around...like im their back-up friend or something. It hurts alot and i cry too bc it feel like i mean nothing to anybody...sometimes at lunch i hear my friends talking about what a great time they had with each other over the weekend and i think "why wasnt i invited?" and the worst one was when my friends where planning on going to a concert and didnt invite me and at luch would pass notes under the table so i wouldn see what they were planning, but i caught them doing it and it really hurt that they didnt want me to go with them... maybe its because im a more independent person and i can get along with out anybody...but i suppose that i can be happy for having a few good friends that actually like me.

Answer 5

Oh Darling That'sFine Dont Worry Imsure u will find good people that become close friends .

if they dont invite u why dont u do like a dinner or event and invite all of ur friends to get know them better and plan dor a movie and stuff ?

Answer 6

Don't worry I'm 16 and don't have a best friend. Now you can stop crying and saying "lmao! what a loser!!!!"

Answer 7

your fine! i am 17 and i haven't found that "best friend" you'll get use to it.. find someone to hang with every once in a wile...try inviting them to do things with you! see what happens! maybe you'll be surprised. I was

Answer 8

who cares, if that's you in the picture, you look amazing so eff 'em.  just start dating.  girls are beotches anyway.  find yourself a possible g*y and become a *** hag

Answer 9

its not unusual. maybe you can try and invite one of your friends to go someplace with. you might need to be the one to get things started. or look for new people to hang out with. don't worry, you will find a bestfriend.  

Answer 10

Just hang out with new people,doood be yourself

My younger sister had this problem so I told her to do the same thing,she now has 3 best friends and theyre inseperable!

:)

Answer 11

Dont worry girl(:

You are not alone.

Sounds stupid, but ask them why they dont invite you places.

If you want to be their friends, then you might want to make a few adjustmints to the way you act around them.

If not, find some new friends.

Look around school, there is no way you're the only one whos alone.

and if there is someone in your class(es) who you like, ask them to hang out. But it sucks that you have to go through what you are, but i guess you just have to move on. good luck girlie(: i'm fourteen too(:

Answer 12

try to make some new friends, im 14 as well, anyways try to make a couple close friends with some people and its normal not to have a best friend. good luck