Is it normal for a 5 year and 8 month old girl to push slap,hit etc.other kids?

Question

My neighbors daughter is always hitting,slapping .The other day she pushed my grandaughter who just turned 7 off the their trampoline because she said she was going to go home because she the little girl pinched had her back.The parents either won't beleive the girl does these things or won't disipline her if they see it.The dad says he can't do anything about it because she won't do what he says.When the almost 6 year old is bad the mother will make all the kids quit playing instead of dissaplending the one who's almost 6.I have seen this several times.How does someone handle this situation.

Answer 1

It's normal, but, as you've said, it's not acceptable. I'd say try to tape the children behaving unacceptable and showing it to the parents as solid evidence of what's going on. Watch the kids while they play as well, and scold when someone hurts another.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

I would not go back

EDIT... to the answer above mine, no it is not normal. I have an 8 year old and she never hits, pushes, or slaps. She knows better!

Answer 3

If I were in your shoes, I would definitely not allow my 7 year old daughter play with the neighbor's girl.

Extremely poor parenting is to blame and the girl doesn't really know better because she's not getting the proper discipline.  Goodness knows, she won't have ANY friends the way she and her parents are going.

Are there any other children in the neighborhood that your granddaughter could play with?

Answer 4

It can be "normal" for that child because her parents are not dealing with her. It is so sad to see this, and i think it happens all of the time. I've had a similar situation...  the best thing to do is to not let them play together alone. you will have to be there at all times, and explain to the mean little girl why you are there and why she won't be aloud to play with your granddaughter alone... until she can earn your trust. This just makes it a pain for you... but really... put the meany on the spot. The other option is to not let them play together at all... explain to your granddaughter why. Then maybe after a few months give it a try again... but if she does one mean thing ... end it... and call her on it... her parents may let her get away with it, but you don't have too... maybe she will learn that in order to play with your granddaughter she'll have to play by your rules! Good luck :)

... oh... i'm not sure that going to the parents would really help... they seem sort of beyond help... and most people are not teachable when it comes to their children... they become very defensive!

Answer 5

You run far away from the crazy parents and don't go back.

Ugh, this is why I quit teaching.  Parents won't parent!

Answer 6

This is no normal & I believe that as soon as a baby is old enough to pull mommy's hair they can learn not to do that.

I'm the mom of 3 kids & from day one I feel the most important thing is for children to learn how to behave and treat others kindly.

I can't tell you how annoyed I get seeing people who can't control their kids. Sadly my own niece & nephew sound a lot like your neighbor's daughter. Children like this need to learn how to obey and it breaks my heart when they don't learn. What kind of adult do you think they'll become if at 5 they hit, slap & pinch to get their way? Not a nice one at all.

It is so HARD to handle another person's child. This is what I try to do with my own niece & nephew when their parents refuse to make them obey.

Let's say my nephew slaps my son a few time. I'll say his name asking him kindly to please play nice. He'll usually ignore me and again he is hitting again. So what do you do when the child won't listen . . . you talk to the child who is being hurt!

I'll usually go up to my son & say something loud enough to make sure my nephew hears me. I'll say something like "Are you ok? Did (name) hurt you?" Usually my son or the other child will let you know they were hurt. I'll then say "Let's go sit over till (name) can play nicely."

Most often the child who was hitting won't like to be alone. Read to the child who was hurt or play a little game. You need to make it look like you are having fun so the child who was being mean will want to join you. Once the child comes near you on their own doing you can say something like "Are you ready to play (name)?" If the child nods and says yes then say something like "I'm not sure if (name of child who was hurt) wants to play. Do you think you play kindly and not hit any more?" If they agree then you can let the kids play but let the child who was hitting know that you will keep an eye on them.

Other times you need to teach the child to feel for others. When I use to baby sit kids who were biters I'd make a point to show the BOO BOO that they left on the other child. I'd make a big deal out of it and let them know how it hurt the child who was bit. This worked well with one of the biters. After awhile you could see how sorry she was for biting and she stopped.

I hope this helps. My BIGGEST pet peeve is parents who can't control their own kids.

Answer 7

A girl that age is old enough to know that's unacceptable and to control herself.  Her parents obviously don't discipline her for her misbehavior and require anything better of her.  I would say not to have your grandchild play with the girl unless you're right there, and tell her straight up front that the first time she hits/slaps/bites/etc that playtime is over and enforce it.  Or if this has happened enough times, just don't have them play together, period, and protect your granddaughter.