My son tells the normal "kid" lies. But I have noticed that he will readily agree to guilt for things he didn't do or intend. To test this, I put a book on the floor in front of him. He saw me do it. Then I said, "Why did you put this book on the floor?" He started making up excuses why it was on the floor. It didn't occur to say to him , "I didn't do that, you just did!" It made me wonder about some other things he's agreed to, like when we say, "You did that on purpose, didn't you?" or "You were trying to get away with xx, weren't you?" and he'll say yes, he did. With him taking the blame for everything, we no longer know when we are punishing him unfairly for lying, or whether he's telling the truth. He seems that he only wants to do things to please other people with no thought at all for himself. He only even does his schoolwork or play with his many friends to please others, he seems to be almost unaware of himself--to the point of not really wanting anything. Thoughts?
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