Is it normal for a teenager not to have a lock on their door

Question

I don't have a lock on my door, and it pisses me off a ton. My parents constantly walk in and out of my room almost 4 times a day, bringing in laundry, or even telling me when they are going to bed. The thing is, I don't want to say anything because then they will think I am masturbating or looking at p**n (which I sometimes am). But I feel like I have no privacy in my room because they can enter on me any time.

My Mom usually walks in during the morning and turns off my air conditioner and then puts my clothes in the drawers so I always have to wear clothes to bed. They won't care if they know what I'm doing it's just that I care if they know. What should I do? Is it normal to not have a lock? Any people with a similar issue?

Answer 1

Why do you need a lock in your parent's house? They own the house, they should have full access to it. Basically just don't do things you don't want them to see and you will be fine.

When you turn 18 and move out on your own you and your roommate can have locks on your doors.

I never had a lock on my door as a kid. Why would I need one?

Answer 2

My stepbrother got upset when he was living with my mom and stepdad because he didn't have a lock on his door (but they would usually knock before entering) so he brought it up to his councler (he had been in trouble with the law a few times) and the councler informed him that legally he didn't even have to have a door on his room at all.  So just be glad you have a door.  I didn't have a bedroom door when i was 14 and at 15 when my parents divorced my mom and i were living in a 1 bedroom apartment.  Yes it is perfectly normal for a child (which you are until you are 18) to have no lock

Answer 3

Yea.  I had one on my door at that age.

As long as your parents know you're not doing anything really bad (drugs or the like), I think they should let you have one.

Answer 4

Well if if makes you feel better I'm 16 and don't have a lock. Maybe buy a doorstop, and when your door is closed put it underneath the door.

Answer 5

I never had a lock on my door, but my dad was extremely courteous and would always knock, and would only come into my room if I told him he could come in...

You don't want to say anything but if you had a lock on the door, they'd probably think you're hiding drugs or something worse...

I think sit your folks down and tell them that you are getting older and would enjoy more privacy and to be treated as an adult and not like their little boy, so could you please ask them to knock before they come in?  It's your folks, so be honest.  They obviously don't think that what they are doing makes you feel awkward, so tell them!  Masturbation may occur to them, and so it should...young guys should be given ample time to practice, there's nothing worse than learning how to finish up quickly because you're terrified your mom's gonna come running in with your laundry! LOL!

Ask her if she can leave your laundry in the laundry room, and you'll collect it every day.  Say goodnight before you go to your room, so they don't have to come in to tell you they are going to bed...

And remember, parents are like small puppies, they are going to make a few mistakes and may need a gentle tap on the nose with a rolled up paper, but if you keep reminding them, politely, to knock before bursting in, they'll eventually get it!  Good luck!

Answer 6

Tell them you'd like privacy for when you're changing or something like that. Although parents never want to think about their kids masturbating, sometimes they should consider that it is something teens do. You deserve the right to privacy like anyone else.

Answer 7

Ask them can they knock before entering. My brother's 16 and he doesn't have a lock on his door. He doesn't even have a doorknob. Okay, that needs some explaining I guess. When we were little, like I was in the 2nd grade probably, it was time to get up for school and the door wouldn't open! We were locked in our room for about an hour. They had to cut the doorknob off to get us out. That morning was spent in tears for me. Its pretty normal.

Answer 8

Well, it is their house. They SHOULD be able to come in and out of your room whenever they want.

You don't need a lock, just ask them if they could knock before coming into your room. It's their house and they're going about their business, bringing in your laundry (which you could and should actually do yourself), taking care of the A/C use in your room (and hence their utility bill)... just contribute to the household in ways that keep them out of your room. Even though you're 15, you're still their baby and they probably don't even realize what they're doing. Just talk to them about the whole privacy thing and ask if maybe they could knock before coming in. They were 15 once, I'm sure they'll understand.

The second you ask for a lock is the moment they start being suspicious. In my parents' house my brother and I had a locks on our doors, but we were not allowed to use them. If we were caught locking our doors, that just bought us a lecture and constant monitoring from our dad. My brother and I were good kids, our parents just had short leashes and don't like being "told" via locked doors where they can and can't be in their own house.

Answer 9

I'm 15 and I have never had a lock on my door. My parents can walk in and out. Here is a tip. Don't do anything you wouldn't want them to see. When you have your own house, then you can have a lock. Maybe say that you want them to knock from now on, as you want some privacy now that you are 15.

Answer 10

I had a lock on my door at my old house but my parents took it off the first time I tried using it. I haven't had a lock on my door  at any house since. It sucks! I asked my parents to knock. My dad does just he doesn't want to walk in while I'm getting dressed or something like that, but my mom never does. She tried knocking once, she knock on the door then opened it before I even said "come in." No she'll just open the door and walk right in. I hate it!  

Answer 11

It is very normal for a teenager to not have a lock on their door. you just have to be open with your parents. approach them as an adult and they will respect you. Tell them you are getting older and would like a little more privacy. Ask if they could just knock for a change. Part of being an adult, is being more responsible... having your mom put away your clothes for you, not only gives her an excuse to come into your room, but also makes you a little childish. I don't mean to offend you with the last remark, it's just a suggestion to help you get more privacy.  

Answer 12

My parents put a lock on my door when I was about12. I think they knew i had started masturbating and wanted me to keep the door locked when i was doing it so my little brother wouldn't come in and see me.

I think it was really cool of them to understand that i needed some privacy and they never embarrassed me by telling me they knew what i was doing.

I don't know how they found out i masturbated unless they saw me when i didn't know it.

So I don't know if it is normal to have a lock on the door but it sure helps.

Answer 13

I don't think it is a problem of whether they trust you or not. A lot of teenagers don't have locks on there doors because I don't think most houses have locks on the bedroom doors, aside from the master bedroom. Its actually totally normal for teens to look at p**n. Feel lucky, I'm not even allowed to close my door, regardless of what I'm doing or what room I'm in. My door has a lock, but its on the outside, and I can't close my door because the doorknob fell off on the inside, and if it closes I'll get locked in. How about you just keep your door open, do your own laundry, and turn off your air conditioner, so she won't have a reason to come in. Or, how about you do whatever you want to do when your family members are out of the house?

Answer 14

I haven't ever had a lock on my door.

Learn to do your own laundry, and tell her you get hot in the morning and that you'll turn the AC off when you get up.

Answer 15

yeah i have a lock on my door - seriously you need to talk to them about that or just get used to them walking in as you "beat the meat" haha

say something like, "now i'm getting older and i would like a little more privacy, i feel like i am responsible and would appreciate a lock on my door"  

Answer 16

if it helps i have no doorknob or lock and it never closes all the way im 15 too and it sucks i just throw stuff behind my door  or it will close all the way so i can change. yea but my bf has a curtain(well its more as just a sheet) as his door.so yea its not unheard of.

Answer 17

lol at them telling you when they are going to bed.

its good to have a lock on your door but sometimes if you lock it too much your dad will take your door away. because thats what my dad did     :(

   he said " you lock you door way too much and next time you do it im taking it away."   but then i forgot and locked it and then next thing i knew my door was gone.  but thats ok i got it back.  :)

just ask them that you would like to have more privacy in the house because you feel like you dont have any and ask them for a lock.

or at least ask them to knock before they come in.

Answer 18

I have a lock but I'm not allowed to use it. My mom says she will not have locked doors in her house. Idk why, but I don't have alot of rules so I don't argue about it.

Answer 19

im 13 years old girl. i have a lock on my door but i usually leave it open anyways. my brother didnt have a lock until he was 16.. just tell your parents you feel you want to be more independent and have more privacy. act mature and do chores and show them you are responsible and wont be having s*x with a girl.

hope i helped

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Answer 20

I have a lock, but I share the room. More my bro's problem though. Mostly because he gets a ***** just from talking to his GF online...

Anyways, a lock won't do much against parents except a few seconds to put your c**k away. Just ask to get a lock, it will be like... a few hours of awkwardness maybe, it could just be you that is uncomfortable, so try asking.

Answer 21

i think you should tell them that you need privacy and when you change, you need a lock. also say you wnt do anything bad and see what they say.

i have a lock on my door but im the "good kid" while my brother is the one who always gets in trouble, so i think my parents trust me on this.

it is pretty normal to not have a lock, i mean a lot of my friends dont. but to be honest, it's their house and they have the right access.

xxox

Answer 22

Ask them for a lock. But when they ask why, just say that you want privacy for when you change.

:)

Answer 23

Talk to them, if they don't think that you should have a lock on your door try hanging a sign on your door k**b. One side can say ENTER the other can say BUSEY or DO NOT ENTER or somthing like that. I don't have a lock but I have a sign that says PLEASE KNOCK. And then I can tell my mom or dad that im busey or i'll just be like "im changing" (even if im not) and they go away.