Is it normal for an 8 yr old to have an attitude?

Question

my daughter is really moany and banging doorsand very aggresive she even pushed my 1 yr old son and bust his face open is anyone else going through this?please help

Answer 1

not all 8yr olds have an attitude problem but many do. It should be stopped NOW!! they might keep it if you don't!

Answer 2

sounds like she has an anger managemet problem. take her to a counselor. she may have issues of jealousy angainst her brother. the counselor can help you get to the bottom of her problems.

Answer 3

I am going threw the same thing right now. My daughter is 7 and she beats my 4 y/o up all the time. I took her to the drs to be tested for ADHD. She doesn't have it  and they said she needs anger management. I don't know if she is jealous of him or not, so I will be taking her to a consular so she can talk to someone. Maybe your daughter is upset that she isn't the only child in the house anymore. Call the dr and take her and see what they say.

Answer 4

The problem probably is she is jealous of your son because she was here first and then this 'thing' came into her life and started getting some of her attention. You should still pay attention to all your children at the same time (share it around) She also could have anger managment problems or maybe something is happenning. You should check out if there is bullying or something like that going on in the school. If not, get the doctor to check her out for other problems. Good luck!

Answer 5

The thing parents need to learn is that 1, 2, 3 year olds are Innocent. Four year olds are cute and 5, 6, 7, and 8 year olds are really rude and think they can get away with anything. Just give a strict punishment but make it clear you still love her.

Answer 6

Yes this is normal. I'm going  through it with my daughter and the dr and teacher have said that it happens around this age where they are trying to assert their indepence and us moms can kinda cling a but to the "they are still a child" I have given her more choices where the outlook isn't that big of a deal to me. I guess just learn to pick your battles and let the rest go with the flow

Answer 7

I don't know about the agressiveness with your 1 yr old son, but I'm discovering that attitude at this age is normal.  My 8 year old twins display it, as well as most of their friends at school.  I'm convinced they pick up attitude from the TV shows they watch (yes, Disney shows too.) I try to limit their TV and try to monitor what they watch.  Most of Nickelodian is forbidden. But they pick it up from their friends at school who watch all these shows. They think the attitude is cool. My husband and I frustrate it with discipline and consequences as much as we can, but it gets exhausting. Sometimes it helpful to just say, "I'm sorry, I'm not going to answer you (help you, etc)  until you can phrase that in a respectful tone and use your manners."  Then they have to rephrase it.  That works. Good luck.

Answer 8

I started with the attitude this early. For me, I think it was because my friends were older and I saw it from them. I was also with a single parent father and was always a few years beyond my actual age.

When my dad would yell about me slamming doors, and raising my voice I would only do it more. When I look back, I am not sure what he could have done during this stage.

I would let her know that she seriously hurt her brother, and he is someone who will look up to her one day. Let her know you want her to respect you, and your house.. and you are willing to show her respect aswell...  I would also let her know that you are there if she wants to talk. Do this when you aren't upset, and she doesn't have the bad attitude going on.

Best of luck!

Answer 9

Yes girls do this around this age. It's time to revert back to what works. such as spanking. I'd say take your daughter to a nice privet room and very calmly turn her over your knee, pull down her pants (and panties) and start spanking. Don't stop until tears are flowing, and her bottom is good and glowing. I gave my oldest more spankings during ages 8-9 then her whole life combine, it's just that way with girls. Trust me I'm thanking god I did too, she's a wonderful child with a healthy respect for rules.

Answer 10

Kids these days! When i was 8 (only 10 years ago) I stayed at home, watched tv and did ballet and never misbehaved or requested anything that was difficult for my parents to deal with. I was an only child though.. Talk to a child phsycologist. Does she live in a certain environtment or culture that may add to this attitude or does she watch too much tv also? Think about who she hangs with and look at all the factors that could be causing these actions of hers.

Answer 11

You need to really show her whos in charge (that means you). Take all her toys away, no TV and she needs to be in her room for atleast one whole day without toys. I mean she'll need food and bathroom but it worked for the family I work for.

Answer 12

I wouldn't say its normal. My 8 year old boy and 10 year old girl don't have attitudes with me. I'd say she's gotten away with it once, so now she thinks she can do it. I'd realign her thinking and make sure she understands (nicely or with punishment) that its not a tolerated behavior and her younger brother surely doesn't deserve her abuse.

Answer 13

You said your "1 yr old son" not her brother. Is she actually your step daughter? It could be jealousy issues, maybe she feels you love the baby more than her.

Answer 14

Smack that naughty bottom till it's cherry red and she needs a soft pillow to able to sit down. She is out of control and will only get worse if you don't curtail it now.

Answer 15

I agree with the other postings, that kids these days pick up on the 'nasty' stuff from peers and TV, etc.  

On the other side, my son is 9 and has behavioral problems, and has to attend therapy.  I see someone too, and a 'parenting coach'.    But he has shown aggression since age 2 or 3...giving me bloody lips, breaking things on purpose, hitting, kicking, etc.  I had to seek help since, time-outs, etc. and parenting books were not helping me.

If this is just a one time/occasional thing, I think other 8 year olds behave this way as well.  dont want to worry you w/my story, but to give you info.

Answer 16

She is still 8 you still can get a hold on this. Yes she has an anger problem but it sounds like she also has a disrespect issue with you.  If she is moany just tell her you can't understand her when she is whining and moaning. If it is under her breath say something like "excuse me what was that?"

banging doors make her reshut the door that so she is not banging. My question to you is what did you do when she pushed her younger brother?