Is it normal for me not to want flowers at our wedding?

Question

My fiance wants flowers,but I think its a waste of money,when the reception hall already is decorated nicely.

Answer 1

YES!  I'm not having flowers at my wedding either (you should see the look on people's faces when I tell them that!) lol.

I am not really a flower person, I mean, they look nice, but my favourite flower is a pink carnation because they are cheap and I like pink, but my all-time favourite flower is a Poinsettia (which is actually a plant). I love Christmas, and our wedding is in late November so I am walking down the aisle carrying a poinsettia bouquette.  So are my bridesmaids.  We aren't having any other flowers for decor or anything.  I think wedding decor (especially flowers) are such a waste of money.  They are only for one night, they are so expensive and they die in a few days.

We aren't even having centerpieces because they cost so much just to sit in the way of guests talking.  We are just have votive candles down the centre of the tables, and table runners that I am making myself.  That's about it for decor, I'm not wasting hundreds of dollars for one night of decoration.  Our reception room is so beautiful just plan because it has exposed beams and stone walls and fireplaces.  We are renting the room because it's so nice just plain!

I think you are totally normal and sensible for saving your money for something better!

Answer 2

there's no such thing as normal or traditional anymore for weddings.  you're right, flowers just die or they're thrown out.  see if you can come up with other reusable decorations for centerpieces or the buffet table and maybe have a fun free raffle to give them away at the end of the night.  (draw a ticket out of a hat)

Answer 3

yeah i would say normal! i dont see the point  either!  its YOUR wedding day.. do it however YOU want to..  and plus flowers just die.  if you wanted to get a small arrangement  for somewhere in the hall just to dry out and say thats from out wedding thats  okay  and mabey it will make your fiance happy.. but i dont see why ppl go all out in flowers.  

Answer 4

Yes, normal. Don't worry what other people think. I had only a bouquet for myself and bridesmaid. My mom flipped out when she found out we weren't having flowers in the church (we paid for our own wedding, and that was the least place I wanted to spend money was on flowers) So, she ordered an arrangement herself to match my bouquet and had it delivered to the church. It did not offend me, but i was like, WHATEVER. I guess it made her happy.

Answer 5

I'm totally on your side, from both an economic and environmental standpoint.  Not only is it a total waste of money to decorate an already-decorated reception venue with lots of flowers, but it's also not very "green" to buy a bunch of flowers that someone had to basically kill by cutting them, only to have them all go to waste after a few hours.  Maybe you and your fiance could compromise by decorating with something like candles, which are still beautiful and romantic, but not nearly as wasteful or expensive as flowers.

Besides my bouquet, my bridesmaids' bouquets, and our moms' corsages, I'm having a flower-free wedding.  Since we're getting married at an outdoor park among the trees and flowers and whatnot, I thought it would be overkill to use more flowers to decorate.  As for the reception, we're having it at an already brightly-decorated restaurant.  It would look WAY too busy with floral centerpieces all over the place.

Answer 6

flowers can be a huge money pit, so you're not abnormal.  

Answer 7

It's normal to have your own preferences, but you and your fiancé need to make sure that both of you are happy with the arrangement.  

Answer 8

It is perfectly normal especially if you have tired of unsuccessful attempts to find a florist.  Maybe meet him halfway--have boutonnieres for him and the groomsmen and carry flowers down the aisle.  But you can do something different (potted plants to take home, fish, an assortment of candles on a mirror, etc) for the reception tables that will save you money.  There are plenty of alternative centerpiece options out there, and I dare say one would off-set the initial beauty of your reception site.  Good luck!

Answer 9

Define "Normal"

Answer 10

yeah it's normal. for alternatives check out www.offbeatbride.com

Answer 11

I am having a bouquet but it is only 3 lilies. no flowers at the hall. IF we do it's going to be ONE flower head (gerber daisie) floating in some water as a centre piece. But that's it.

I'm with you...waste of moeny.  I'd rather spend a little extra somewhere else...like the honeymoon.  And this coming from someone who is paying 25% of normal cost for all flowers. (family friend is a florist and she said she has to charge me something but only 25% of what HER cost is)

Answer 12

The only flowers at my wedding were the ones in my hand and my brides maids... oh wait a sec.. My hubby and I did give my mom , grandma and his grandma a rose and laid one where his mom would've sat ( she passed away)  .. the church was beautiful enough without flowers and the hall was beautiful too.

Answer 13

This is a good start to learning how to compromise in your new life.  Since he DOES want flowers and you don't how about just having a minimal amount of flowers, of his choosing, at the wedding?    That way you will not be going overboard for flower expenses and it will make him happy also.