Is it normal for to dwell or let something bother you for a couple of days, it stops bothering you and then?

Question

something happens and it bothers you again? My mom will tell me how hard my sister works and what a great job she has and it irritates the heck out of me for a while. The feelings lay low and she does it again. Is it normal and if not, how do I handle them? Thanks and please no smart remarks.

Answer 1

SERIOUS QUESTION: do u think u might be jealous of ur sister?

What are u doing with yourself...what kind of job do you have...better yet are you happy with u?

Generally, if we are irritated by someone elses success we either are not happy about our current situation or we would just loved to be highly regarded like our sister is...

but two some parents have their favorites and you can be just as successful but for some reason they just mention the others success and disregard ur hard work...if this is the case then sit down and talk with your mom...if she has a hard head and is not approachable then next time she says ya know ur sister has a good job, then you follow up by saying yea, so do i ..i had a wonderful day at work today or last week...let me tell you about it...that will redirect her...lol...the key is to take the focus off of your sister and redirect it to you or someone else...lol best wishes

Answer 2

I sounds more like you are getting re-upset because your mother keeps re-pushing your button when it comes to your over-achiever sister. Perhaps the best approach is to ask your mother to sit down and assertively (not aggressively) explain to her that when she compares you to your sister, it makes you feel ________ and that although she apparently is attempting to goad you into being more like your sister, shes only creating resentment in you toward your sister and toward the relationship that you and she have.

Pick a time and place away from all other distractions, and make sure that nobody else can disturb the two of you. She needs to know that she is not effectively pushing you to do anything but hate your sister just for being alive.

You and your sister are two very different people with different dreams, talents, abilities and desires. And that while your sister seems to have found her niche and is doing well with it, you're still working on that aspect of your life and everyone moves at different speeds in various stages of life.

Good Luck...