Is it normal for your parents to abuse you mentally or physically?

Question

My mom, is constantly always putting me down... physically, and mentally she's always calling me names.. like fat, sometimes ugly, useless, since I was a kid...I'm sixteen now... my parents use to hit me and my siblings all the time for stupid reasons when we were young. My dad was more the abusive one he would hit us with a cane... once I looked out the window when I was suppose to be having to be lunch he hit me hard with his cane. And another time was when I answered a phone call that wasn't for me... he whipped me... the memories of the abuse...have been haunting..sometimes the memories make me cry at night.. the physical abuse isnt so much now because we're older.. but the verbal abuse is getting worse... my self esteem is really low.

Answer 1

I went through almost exactly the same thing. At 1st it affected me a lot, crying during nights, not being able to move on... etc.

The bad news is that maybe it is never going to stop. But here is what helped me: I stopped taking everything they said seriously. I came to the realization that everything they said and did was THEIR problem and not mine. I decided that I would NOT be a victim of circumstances. That no matter what happened around me, I would know that what matters is ME being happy no matter everything around. I decided to not resent them. To forgive them every second. If I resented them, I would end up like them. I didn't excuse them, (Ok, they had problems... but there was no excuse) yet I forgave them because it was good for me. Now my relationship is a little better. Sometimes my parents still say words that would hurt, I just ignore them, I know it is their problem.

Don't do things just because of them. I know a lot of people that in order to escape this, they get involved with someone of the opposite s*x, just as a way to escape... yet things turn worse.

So, don't let them ruin your life.

Plus, if you are able to deal with them... life will be so much easier because you will be able to deal with anybody after that. There will no be no one as bad as them.

Answer 2

no that is not normal, being treated like that is unbearable and abusive you need to get help and if you don't sneak out late and train at the gym and beat the c**p out of your parents in the name of self defense

Answer 3

i agree, to college, get married, and don't invite your parents to the wedding. no that is not normal. I cant possibly imagine who can endure that kind of abuse. If they make you mad enough, i think there are laws against physical abuse. also known as child abuse. (Dont know about laws though, sorry)  

Answer 4

If you are serious then you need more help than can be offered here.  Check out your high school, counselors there can get you with professionals who know how to handle your situation.    

Answer 5

don't listen to them as soon as you get older and move on to a college as far as you can from them they will regret it but you'll be long gone and happier you'll probably find you a companion who will see you for what you really are worth just know that. Don;t give a **** for what they say. take care

Answer 6

No it's not normal for parents to abuse their children. Don't take the things your mom says to heart.It may be difficult but you could report them to cps and at least get it on record. Is there an  outside family member that you trust ? A teacher at school or counselor? Sometimes it helps to talk to someone even if you don't report the abuse  

Answer 7

Umm..not to be rude..but hopefully anybody in there right mind would realize that that's not right.

Answer 8

Read books on personality development...anyway as you turned 16 now you might leave your home in a couple of years and will become Independent,then you please forget your past forever for your own good.If possible try to read the book "The Secret" it will help you become optimistic which helps you build confidence.

Answer 9

Well i was badly physically abused, and i know it happens a lot, so does mental abuse, but that doesn't make it normal or right, you could call social services, or tell someone that could help, it's not normal, but it happens more than it should, and you shouldn't take it, but i know as well as you that that's a lot easier said that done, so help would be good.