Is it normal if my little girl is afraid of me?

Question

My 2 year old girl is afraid of me and don't know why. I'm 26 and last Friday I had guests (friends - all men) at home and ...I turned music up full blast...

She lives with me and my mom, since then she is afraid of me and is all times with my mom. Why is she afraid... and of me?... thanks - Malcolm.

Answer 1

Stop being so loud, and stop bringing so many of your friends over.

Your a dad and you have to let go of some of that stuff.

Just don't bring any friends over and stop listening to music so loud for a week and try to spend some time with her.

Try to make her laugh, do what your mom does with her.

Just try to spend a little more time with her and try to hold back on having alot of friends over and turning up the music real loud.

She'll stop being scared eventually.

Answer 2

You might have scared her by turning up the music. Remember she is only 2 and doesn't understand everything. Depending on how you and your friends behaved that night she also may have seen something that scared her. See if your Mum can talk to her to find out what is wrong then take it step by step to regain her trust.

Answer 3

You've done nothing wrong - sometimes, kids are just like that. She'll get over it soon enough.

Answer 4

she probably got freaked out with all these men in the house and loud music could you not have taken her to a friends or relatives house for the night to look after her while you let your hair down?

Answer 5

you probably scared the s**+!t out of her with your loud tunes and rowdy mates.

Answer 6

She's 2 and little, you 26 and big to her and obviously very very loud.

Answer 7

You have a 2 yr old daughter in a house. What the heck are you doing blasting music??? You have responsibility to her first! Grow up!

My 3 yr old daughter was upset with her father too. She would not talk to him for 3 days. After a while, I just had to get them together and get her talking why she didn't want to talk to him. It was about something he told her "no" to and she got all upset about it. After he told her that he didn't unfderstand and that he was sorry, she went right back to loving him.

Maybe you should talk to her, while you mom is present. Explain to her that you understand that she got upset, tell her that you are sorry and will try not to do it anymore. Honstly, quit partying, you have a 2 yr old to think about.  

Answer 8

She may have been frightened by someone who looks like you or is similar in size.  I also have to wonder if someone tried to pick her up or roughhouse with her (even if it was completely innocent) and maybe that scared her.  You have to grow up and be a dad now first and foremost.  No loud obnoxious parties around your 2 year old.