Is it normal to ABSOLUTELY HATE the way you look?

Question

i look in the mirror and literally hate myself so much that i cry and bang my head on the wall and fantasize ways of killing myself.

seriously what wrong with me? is this like a mental disorder or something? i am thin and people tell me i am beautiful but i sometimes lie and tell people they are pretty when they arent so maybe they are lying to me.......

Answer 1

You have grown up believing how you look is what determines what people think of you. This is just not true.

Have you heard of Mother Teresa?. She was a nun that worked amongst the very poor in India. Was she beautiful? - probably not outside, but inside she was, and millions of people loved her.

Have you heard of The Buddha? Millions of people loved him and he probably weighed around 500 pounds (227 kg). He also was a beautiful person inside and loved all those around him. People traveled from all over the world just to be in his presence.

You need to change the way you look at things.

It is irrelevant how you look. How you look does not determine who you are (the type of person you are). It's not what you've got - it how you look at it.

I watched a video recently of a person who was born with no arms and no legs. He LOVES his body and would not change it. It has given him access to speak to and help people from all over the world.

This is a video of him.

Nick Vujicic, No Arms, No Legs, No Worries!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yo_24_qTN...

peacefromken.

Answer 2

Read this story, and look at the pictures of these women, maybe it will change your outlook on things.

Either way, there's nothing wrong with the way you look. It's all in your head.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26223335/

Answer 3

You are perfectly normal, except for the crying, banging your head against the wall and wishing to die.  

A lot of people dont like the way that they look, however they focus most of their time on what they are doing or saying.  People who are in their sixties and seventies may still not like how they look, but that doesnt stop them from going out and carrying on with their lives.

When people tell you that youre beautiful thank them for the compliment, there are plenty of people who never hear that from others.  

Answer 4

I feel the same way sometimes, but sometimes I feel beautiful.  I think there is just something wrong with you thoughts and beliefs.  

Answer 5

don't let your appearance take over your life because you're not gonna live with it forever, right? so instead try and do things that make u happy. it is definately not normal to not know what u love doing. find whatever it is and actually do it. i think thats a good way to your solution..

i would like to help u out

Answer 6

Maybe they are right, you are beautiful  by the way you  cant judge yourself. 0_0

Answer 7

lol your cute.

listen up girl,no one is really beautifull it's all temporary.

we all gotta get old sometime.

Answer 8

we can talk this though babe!

Answer 9

We are all created my God, there is no ugly in this world. If other people telling you that you are beautiful maybe you are.  

Answer 10

You hate the way you look, ok...that's alright. i do too, sometimes, but it's not normal to fantasize about killing yourself. you are torturing yourself by obsessing over your looks. i'm sure you look beautiful. be confident, then your beauty will shine through. stop being so vain and realize that beauty isn't everything, it's the heart that matters.

Answer 11

normally I'd say this is just being self-conscious like any other people, but that seems pretty bad. if its to the point that you want to inflict self-harm it might well be a mental disorder. I'm not a doctor or anything so I would recommend seeing a psychologist if you could.

Answer 12

Teens go through self esteem issues. How serious it is depends on how serious you think it is. Fantasizing suicide is different than actually contemplating it as a possible choice. Only you know how you really feel. If its very serious to you, you need to see a therapist. If you are suicidal for real you need to go to an ER or call crisis line or 911

Answer 13

look honey every woman hates something about themselves .we are surrounded by pictures in the media of what beauty is supposed to be and realistically its unachievable as those pictures are all air brushed even the women in the pictures don't look like that.i wouldn't be thinking of ways to be killing yourself your only 16 and believe it or not you are still developing into the woman that you are going to be both physically and mentally hang on there and you will see you will develop into a beautiful swan even if you dint think so now besides there are other things in life to worry about like your health and well being  

Answer 14

Talk to your parents or to a school counselor.  Fantasizing about killing yourself is not normal.  You need help!