Is it normal to always feel the need to be validated in a relationship? How do you know when your being ...?

Question

overly sensitive? I will say sexual jokes/innuendos to my bf and often times he doesnt do anything in response. I will call him flirtatious names or send a dirty text and then ask him if he likes it and he just doesnt seem to get it...I know that hes crazy about me but I just feel invalidated by him so often. I constantly feel hurt by his indifference towards my attempts to rile him up. I enjoy initiating sexual/flirtatious behavior with my bf, but constantly feel like Im left high and dry by him.

Answer 1

This kind of thing turns me off, and it leads to over analysis of a relationship which will eventually lead to its demise imho. Too much neediness is the root of a bad relationship. Each person is independent and the couple is the sharing part, but each person needs to love the other person more than themselves some times. Ramble ramble.

Answer 2

welcome to the jungle...i had 4 kids with my ex wife...how i have no idea...she could care less about s*x..i think we made love once a month...but yet she said she loved me like no one else...after several years of marriage..she wouldn't even sleep with me...but she still loved me...what a weird way of showing it...i got tired of there ''love'' and ''s*x''...we divorced...just be cautious

Answer 3

Sounds like you need someone who is a little looser ... your b/f sounds too stiff for you ... you need to hear how much he cares ,often ...

Answer 4

It seems like he's not doing much to express how he feels. I think you have a right to feel the way you do. it seems like he's not really doing anything to show that you want to be validated. you may want to have a serious talk with him. are you sending him texts in order to get a reaction from him???Do you act more "crazy" in order to rile him up? I think you're in need of a serious talk with this guy. he needs to be more open.