Is it normal to feel replaced by a New Born Cousin?

Question

My aunt and uncle just ADOUBTED a child and named her "Rachel Lynn" and they act like she is the onyl thing Around them me (10) sister (12) and my brother (14) think where being replaced because r mommom and dada (mom & dad) and nannan and pap (grandparents) always talk about her. and shes not even Blood related to us! And She is really cute and i dont want to be mean to her when she gets older please tell me how me and my brother and sister can get over it! please. ( oh and if you say where s****. and want all the atection to our selfs, where not like that where probbly the nicest kids you would ever meet, Our parents say that, people we dont even know come up to our parents in Stores and stuff and say that we have good manors, we dont have alot we are just a small family living in cabins West virgina. so please help :) )

-Callie (10) , Lizzy (12) , Eric (14)

Answer 1

Why don't you tell her or some one how you really  deep down feel .you really shouldn't feel left out unless its by a brother or sister but never by cousin

Answer 2

Ok honey, that is perfectly normal i was so jealous when my nephew was born and i was 8. The way i got over it was actually seeing him the way everyone else did. They still love u the same and everyone most likely did the same thing when u were born too. But don't worry they still love you. I just think you need to just let it go and have fun with ur cuz. Try to make her feel welcomed, she might look up to you one day

Answer 3

They just ADOPTED a child, good for them.  Everyone is talking about her, because they are excited, like most people would be.  They are not pushing you to the side, or your brother or sister.  It's normal to feel the way you feel, but untrue.  You feel like you are being replaced?  How'd you think your brother and sister felt when you were born?

A small family living in West Virginia, in a log cabin.  What does that have to do with this question?!

Answer 4

It's normal to feel a little left out when a new baby comes to the family, adopted or not, blood doesnt really matter in family, love does. I just had a baby and one of my nieces wants nothing to do with her, in fact she acts out by showing her panties EVERYtime the baby is around just to get more attention she is 3 1/2. my other niece almost 3 adores her and wants to do nothing but kiss her and hold her. It doesnt have to be bad, you could be excited too! You now have a new baby in your life to love and cuddle how fabulous is that. my 3 year old niece the one that enjoys my baby, made her laugh yesterday it was the first time she has ever laughed. She can now say she made her cuz laugh out loud for the first time, how cool is that? Your old enough to make the choice how you want to feel about your new cousin, I hope you enjoy her.

Answer 5

I think you guys are acting selfishly.

Blood doesn't matter... they adopted this beautiful baby girl and it's time to grow up a bit, just my opinion.

So what if they talk about her!?  They're just talking about her.  Sheesh.  She's a new little baby.  That's perfectly normal.

Answer 6

They're all just excited because she's a new baby, everyone gets like that. The excitement will fade a little over time. But try to remember that she is little and helpless and needs they're attention more than you 3 do at your age. You need to show a little more maturity and act like the big cousin you are. It's certainly normal to be a bit jealous but please don't take it out on the baby, it's not her fault. At 10, 12 and 14 you should be excited about a new baby too, not so jealous. They still love you all just the same, don't worry. But it might make you feel better to tell them how you feel.