Is it normal to feel slightly uneasy about your partner's past relationships?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for four months now and we're really happy, but I can't help but feel uneasy when he talks about past relationships. For example, he broke up with his last girlfriend because his best mate at the time was very seriously ill and he spent a lot of time worrying about him to the extent he couldn't concentrate on his relationship.

I know that's in the past and that he's with me now, but I can't help but feel a little uneasy - paranoid seems too strong a word but I suppose you could say that - at the fact that their relationship never really got a proper chance. Am I even making any sense here? :P

Answer 1

Yes it is normal.  

Answer 2

Yes it is normal. Listen to yourself

Answer 3

What you have to keep in mind is that if he had really wanted to be with her, he would have found a way. Chances are though she was demanding of him instead of being consoling. I would venture to say his version is a nice way for him to say that she was being a selfish b***h. Take that as a good sign. Otherwise don't worry about the past, focus on the present and learning about one another and building what the two of you have.

Answer 4

yea its pretty normal,i use to feel uneasy around ma bf ex, but now i'm totally cool, cauz i kno im the WIFEY,she's the past n i'm the present, try not to dwell on wat's already dne but what's to become.....  or that's what's gonna hold u baq in a potetential relationship or life in general.

Answer 5

yes...its completely okay but u need to trust that he loves you and stay true a faithful in theis relationshpi

Answer 6

It's normal.  You feel a bit jealous everyone does.  Because you sense that he might have feelings for this person, since they broke up for reasons that were beyond their control.  Don't worry, if he had really liked her than they would have gotten back together already, but obviously he likes you, since you're his lady : )