Is it normal to feel this way? :(

Question

Ok. I just dumped my bf of 2yrs as i discovered he was cheating on me, wit his best mates girl. He also managed to "tag and release" 15 girls, (more than a few sexually), at a party which he told me that i was not to go to. I'm just really upset by the whole thing although i am happy that i do not have to deal with his kak anymore.

my problem now is, i fear that i will never get another boyfriend again. He was my 1st and i loved him so much, but all my trust in men has been ruined now. how do i get it back? I'm scared that it was my fault that he cheated and that no men will ever want to be with me. i dont wanna be a 62yr old single woman living in the hills of switzerland with 12 cats and a goat.

I do not want another guy at the moment, but do you think i will ever be able to trust a guy again? how can i do this? has anybody out there had a similar experience?

Thanx.

Answer 1

Dont worry. It's normal to be sad. And that absolutely wasnt your fault. You will find another boyfriend who will love you the way you deserve. I know from personal experience. That happened to me at least 3 times, now Im married to the most wonderful man on earth. Oh, and wouldnt you rather live with 12 cats and a goat, instead of that pig of a man?

Answer 2

Aww, girl, don't worry over it!! You're not going to be some old spinster. That guy was just a jerk, but you'll know when you find the right one. There's plenty of time.

Answer 3

sweethart, dont feel liek all your trust in men has gone, seriously its just that one guy

im 18 now and still not really had a proper relationship, im just waiting for it to come to me

it will come for you and you dont need to go looking.

I hate this black guy and he hit once so i called him a nasty name he used the fact that he was black as to why i was calling him this

i feel in the same way just coz u hate that one bloke doesnt mean you hate them all, and i dont hate all balck people just that one coz he is horrible and a nasty nasty man

seriously enjoy being single atm the world is amazing when your single you will notice all them cute guys walking down the street and you'll also appreciate your friends more

that person that your supposed to spend your life with will come for you dont you worry

and dont hate men either just hate that man

ok sweetie ho[pe u feel better soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 4

Yeah, I went through the same thing. I love him, he "loved" me, he cheated on me, I got broken hearted and would not let go of my love for him...blah blah blah.. Every teen goes through that at one point, then feels like c**p and worthless.

Trust me, I dont think that you will become that person. You are still young and have many years to go. You will find Mr. Right and fall in love all over again. Yeah you will still love that other dude, because when you truly love some one, you never stop loving them completely, you just loose the need for them.

But... I think you get the idea...

Just be calm. The right guy will come to you in time. Put your self back into the dating world and have some fun!

Answer 5

I have gone through the same thing. Don't let him keep playing you. He's not worth it, no man is. Don't let him ruin your trust in other guys out there. They are not all the same. I thought I was gonna be single forever to after I dumped my no good boyfriend, but I'm now with the man of my dreams, so I'm glad I let the crappy one go.

Being single is also better than being in a crummy relationship.  

Answer 6

Wow...you're making this way bigger and dramatic than it is.

NEVER get a bf? Your trust in ALL MEN gone forever??

HE WAS A LITTLE STUPID BOY NOT A MAN.

And I don't care if he's 15, or 40. Anyone who acts like this is immature. Don't judge men by one bad example. How would you feel if some boy said all women are bad cuz of one bad one? You'd tell him how ridiculous this is.

Sadly, the younger the man, especially teens and 20's, the more they want to use women for s*x and that's it. You fell for it. That's too bad, but you chose it and now you have learned. Our modern youth culture thinks that's cool to be active young and 14 yr old girls are getting knocked up everyday. This is all the more reason to wait till you are an adult to date and especially have s*x. Dating is to find your life mate. s*x is for babies (you risk it everytime, even with BC). That is not something you will do in high school. It's not worth getting the rest of your life screwed up for..so many girls fall for it....you're too smart for that.

Welcome to life. It will take time, but the hurt and regret will go away.

Answer 7

Dont worry, loads of people get into your situation and he was just 1 bad guy who has ruined your life, dont give up you will find some-one else... You can trust a lot of other guys...

Answer 8

He was just a bad guy :( Don't worry about it the average teen has their heart broken at least 4 times in their lifetime, You will be able to trust men again but it may take a while. Find the right man and make sure you can trust him this time. Just let time heal your pain, Good luck ;]

Answer 9

listen, i have been 'six in the morning fool',

(well me and my best mate calls it from a Take That song)

and i have finally stopped going to back to the guy that treats me bad all the time and everyone is relieved about it!

its just a bad guy, find someone you love, cause when something bad happen, something comes out of it, as i have learnt, i've got an lovely bf, i love to bits and i know he cares for me like i do.

hope my story helps

Answer 10

Well all you have to do is learn to trust again by starting over, and it will be hard but if you find someone you could be intrested in just take it slow, and it will all come to you...

Answer 11

You'll meet the right guy, don't judge us all by one rotten apple.

We usually get what we think we're worth so set your sights higher!