Is it normal to feel uncomfortable around children?

Question

I really feel nervous around children and I'm really nervous around them. When I was younger, I thought I wanted children until I got older I realized that kids aren't for me. Now when I see a kid, I get angry.

Is it normal to feel uncomfortable around kids? As a man, am I doomed to be single because I know most women want to be mothers, sadly for me?

Now don't tell me I'll change my mind because I really nervous around kids and I can't see myself with a woman who has or wants kids.

Answer 1

There are plenty of women out there who don't want children also. And, there are women out there who are older with grown children. You will find someone who is right for you, just be sure to be honest about your wishes before things get serious. Sometimes women think they can change your mind, so be sure that you are straight up with the women you are dating. You will find someone, don't worry.

Answer 2

well thank God you realized that you arent daddy material:) but i dont c why you would get angry around kids that part is a little weird and i hope you dont do or say anything stupid to p**s a parent off ! but believe it or not there are women out there who dont want kids either! and probaly feel the same way you do except for the part about getting angry! my advice to you would be to stay away from parks and chuckie cheese!

Answer 3

It's pretty normal. I sort of have the same problem. I like kids, but I don't know how to talk to them. It'll probably be different for you when you actually have a kid.  

Answer 4

No, I don't think it is normal to be uncomfortable and nervous around children.  But, it is o.k. for you to not want to have children if you don't want to.  There must be a reason for the uneasiness with kids.  I would talk to a doctor about it.  You don't need advice on why you don't want kids, just why they make you feel the way you do.  And NO, you probably aren't doomed in the relationship area either, there are women out there that don't want kids either.  I'm sorry to hear that though.  Kids can be a wonderful and fun addition to one's life.  I have two myself and wouldn't have it any other way.  Good luck to you.  

Answer 5

Judging by your avatar name, it's not just kids you're having trouble with ..

Anyway, just find a woman that doesn't want children either; not all women want to me Mother's. =]

Answer 6

Have you ever really spent time around kids that were close to you?  Why does seeing kids make you angry?  Be honest with yourself about this!  Most people who just don't want kids are indifferent toward children or consider them an inconvenience to their lifestyle, but kids don't make them actually angry.

Kids always made me really nervous and irritated until my brother was born (when I was twenty).  Spending time with him made me really reconsider my attitudes and fears about kids.  I now really do want children, and am even a nanny!  I wouldn't make this decision out of fear or nervousness, but if its something you don't want, people should respect that.

If you do decide that you really don't want kids, there are girls out there that just don't want to be mothers.  It suprised me when a couple of my friends told me they just didn't want kids, but I respect that decision-- a lot of people do.  

What you do need to do is be up front with the women you date.  If it starts to get serious, you need to tell them you don't want kids.  If you do on-line dating, don't lie in your profile just to get more hits.  You want someone that really doesn't want kids, and women won't change their minds.  If they do, they may resent you later.

The most important thing here is to be really honest with yourself, and I'm glad you're starting now.  Good luck.

Answer 7

Not all women want children.....and maybe if you did get a "surprise" one day you might feel differently. I was always nervous around other people's kids but it's different when they're your babies!

Answer 8

in todays world there are so many women who do NOT want kids because it gets in the way of the carrier or their life or both.  So you will have no problem finding a women who is the same way as you, this is why single sites always have the question about kids and don't have don't want is always a choice you can choose.  Best of luck.  But it could be your age too (IDK how old you are but if you are younger).  Since many people are waiting until 30+ to have kids these days many have no desire for them or to be around them before that.  And actually I know people who hate kids, can't stand to be around them, but have a kid or two of their own, they are find with their kids and love them to death just can't stand other's kids.

Answer 9

you have issues,you need help from a professional that can prescribe you some meds,it's ok to not want to have kids,but to make such a great deal about it,your talking like when you see a kid you want to kill it,Calm down if you don't want kids then don't have any,use some common sense.when you see a kid you get angry,angry about a human life.Parenting is not for everyone your right.So if you sure go ahead and have a Vasectomy,Just stay away from kids you seem a little harmful and you don't need any trouble.

Answer 10

You won't know unless it actually happens. its different when it's YOUR child, that you actually made. believe me. my husband was very nervous with other children. and at first, he was nervous to hold our baby, but once he got used to it, he practically did everything! and he fell completely in love with her! it was just hard for him to get used to at first because he didnt have a lot of experience around kids growing up or even as an adult. dont completely rule it out right now. you have plenty of time to get married and then decide. dont get a vasectomy cause that will def scare off the women! just go with the flow, fall in love, and see what happens. :]

Answer 11

Not everyone needs to be a parent.  I think it's commendable that you know what works for you and what doesn't.  My only comment is that you want to be honest in your needs when you are dating.

Answer 12

First, not all women want to have kids. I don't. I do ok around them but after an hour or so I want them gone. I don't have the patience and my nerves get frazzled. I don't like noise and cleaning up messes, which seems to go hand-in-hand with kids.  

Second, give yourself some slack. It's normal to be uncomfortable around kids if you aren't used to them. Maybe if you got into a relationship which lead to marriage and you felt you had a supportive partner, things would follow a natural progession and you'd be more receptive to the idea. Or maybe not. Even still, there are plenty of women out there that are content to be a part-time doting auntie and not a mommy.    

Answer 13

Not all ladies want to have kids so you need to find someone that feels the same way you do about children.

I wont say that you will change your mind but I didn't want children then 10 years of being with my husband it happened and I don't know what I ever did without my little guy.....just a thought.

Answer 14

You sound like most single men. I'm not going to tell you that you're gonna change you're mind cos you told me not to.

(But you might)