Is it normal to fight with your fiance like crazy a week before the wedding?

Question

I'm stressed out and everything has been bugging me. Has anyone else gone through this? I love him to death, I seem to get mad at everything he does and it just starting happening the week before the wedding. Any suggestions would be great :)

Answer 1

Stressful situations always bring out the worst in people.  Weddings are definitely stressful.  When everything is over you will be able to relax on your honeymoon and you will be Mr. and Mrs. Wonderful again.

Answer 2

It is very normal for you to be feeling this way ,just try to relax and think of all the good things at the wedding and your honey moon and if you can i would go get a massage few days before you would feel so much better.

Answer 3

yeah cause ur goin through da wedding plans gettin ready and that kind of stuff

Answer 4

no its not normal.  you either need to seek therapy or break up with him immediately.

Answer 5

maybe you're just nervous because of the wedding or something, and you feel like your're not ready i dont know, if you feel like you're stressed with him, maybe you should just plan the wedding later and see if everything works then plan it again sounds like a lot of work, but it may work.

Answer 6

I agree it is a lot of stress and PMS does not help!!!  All I can say is to think before you speak.  You don' t want to be fighting at this time!  If you have to, leave for a little while, like for a walk, or go into another room and chill out for a minute.  Just be aware of what you are doing and try not to freak out!!  Good luck and happy wedding!

Answer 7

I think tension is normal.  Nerves are on edge for each of you.  But "fight like crazy" is a bit off.  Maybe you need to chat with him so you both calm down and get on the same page.

Good Luck

Answer 8

If you aren't having second thoughts about marrying him than I would say it's just classic bridal nerves and stress. Take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy yourself. You don't want to be the only person who doesn't remember your wedding! My cousin and her now-husband got married two years ago, and they got so caught up in the planning and the stress that they don't remember much about their day. Unfortunately their photographer form a 5 diamond resort sucked and his best shot was of her cougar grandmother's a$$, so they don't have any visual aids. Don't let that happen to you two =]

Answer 9

If during any of the other phases of wedding planning you two were rarely fighting or fussing, and if this is not a normal indication of your relationship (not sure how long exactly you've been together), then YES.  It is normal.  'Normal' doesn't mean that *everyone* has gone through it.  Don't let someone else tell you that 'solely cause they didn't have that problem then it is a problem for you and definitely not normal'...

First off, as your additional details stated, PMS.  Add that to a nervous-filled time (and sprinkle in your personality traits for good measure - whatever they may be, they most certainly affect how you handle and feel about the stress), and it's a major issue.  Or it can seem like one.  And think about the differences in PMS just among one group of friends.  What is 'normal' for one isn't for the others.  And yet there is no need for any of them to go to a doctor afraid for their lives just because one woman's body acts different on a period than that of another.  It is the same with many other aspects of a woman's life as well.

Second, does he do a lot of arguing back?  Is there any name-calling or threats either to you or your property?  Does he seem to try to understand at least?  Does he stand back and try to let it blow over, knowing that it can quite easily be attributed to the stress/PMS combo?

Most importantly - have you at any time sat down with him and told him how scared you are of things not going as planned and you're nervous about this (is this first wedding for both?)?

If not - do so before the wedding!!!  Especially if this is indeed a first for both of you, tell him that you are unsure of what to expect.  That this is a new experience and that your excitement and anticipation of being by his side as his bride is coupled with worry of things going wrong and the emotional roller coaster is extended because of something you can not control - who wouldn't take control of that if they could?

One last thing - try to think of whether any of his normal habits usually (even if only slightly) bother you on a normal day.  And make absolutely sure you talk to him!!!  You are aware of being nervous and all... I'm sure you can set aside one second or two to say something not in an angry way, but in a loving way.

You love him very much and that will show through, and if he loves you even half as much - then he will see it through all the anxiety that you may display!

I hope that you will find this helpful and that you will see this anxiety through to a very happy wedding day!!

Answer 10

Yes- it's just the stress.  I would suggest biting your tongue for a minute or two (not literally of course) when you feel like you are getting upset with him.  Remember, it's the marriage that is important- more than the wedding.  Keep saying that over and over!

Answer 11

i don't think it's normal... i know my hubby and i didn't fight like that before the wedding. we were in it together, if one of us was upset about something, the other one understood. i think it's a bad sign that you're getting so mad at everything he does.

Answer 12

Yep we did it and i was about ready to leave but we worked out our differences together and we did get married. It's been four years and im glad i did it. Try talkign to him explaing to hime what your going through and how you need him more than ever to make thisday a special one that both you and him can remember.