Is it normal to have a fear of having an ugly child?

Question

I'm extremely good looking (sorry if that offends you) and it makes sense that my husband will also be extremely good looking. But Since I was little, I've always had a fear of having an ugly child, I've seen beautiful couples make ugly babies and I don't want to be one of those couples. I have this fear of having an ugly child/children. I don't know what I would do, I've even gone as far as considering adoption (exclusively adopting good looking children who look like me and my future husband)

Is this a normal fear?

Will I grow out of it?

What are the chances of 2 good looking people to have ugly babies?

Answer 1

WOW!! are you that VEIN and SHALLOW???

Answer 2

Really good looking people never have to state that they're good looking.

Having said that, all mothers think their children are beautiful.

Answer 3

I agree with burning cookie 100%

Answer 4

It IS a normal fear. But don't worry, you will think your baby is the most beautiful baby in the world. And to you it will be.

Answer 5

it is normal yes.. but not to the extent you are having.. your a little to self centered honestly.. its not normal to want a good looking child so badly that you adopt in fear of your child being ugly.. its just a tad cold.. its normal for all women to fear they may have an ugly child.. but most women then realize its not just about that and they will love and accept their child regardless..

Answer 6

when u see the baby you will think its the most beatiful baby on earth and nothing or noone will change that!!!

Answer 7

it's very normal. everyone thinks about it.

Answer 8

every body thinks about it but if its your child then why the h**l would it matter what it looks like??You should love that baby ugly or not!

you sound really shallow

Answer 9

yeah so ur prolly gonna have an ugly kid now!!

Answer 10

I think it is normal to wish for a child that is pretty/handsome...although I would hope that whether your child would be considered attractive by normal standards or not, that you would love that child regardless. Babies are beautiful creations regardless of their exterior appearance. Anyone can have a beautiful child. You must think about the fact that you could have the most beautiful child in the world and then that child could become disfigured in an accident. Would you love that child any less? If you question your answer to that question then I would suggest you not have any children at all...even through adoption. A child should be loved unconditionally...not rated based on appearance!!!

Answer 11

yes its normal,we all want lovely kids

Answer 12

Don't feel bad and dont let anybody make you feel bad trust me its totally normal. Society is so obsessed with looks fat, skinny, pretty, ugly who ever says they haven't thought of that when there expecting there probably not human. No worries I'm sure your baby will be beautiful!!

Answer 13

even if your child is ugly it doesnt matter. once you have it, it could have like 5 ears and it wouldnt matter. You would still love it! trust me  i went through the same thing!!! Even if she/he is ugly you would still see it as beautiful!!

Answer 14

Nope I have never had that fear. I knew my children would be beautiful and they are. If and when you have children I'm sure you will think they are beautiful. But if your that shallow as to worry about only having pretty babies  then save yourself the trouble and not have any.

Answer 15

Actually, the odds are against you for having an extremely good looking child. Most people are average looking even in families with attractive parents. Genetics is like playing a sweepstakes. What you get is what you get. The term good looking can be a bit vague though, if you're wealthy it's easy to become more attractive if you can afford plastic surgery, more expensive clothing, makeup, etc. Makeup can make you look attractive, but it's only an illusion. If I were you, I'd worry more that my children grow up healthy, and become good kind-hearted people, regardless of what they look like. Looks DO fade. A fiery car accident can burn your face and take them away too. Worrying if your child will be ugly is trivial.

Celebrities can look attractive, but take the makeup off and most are average looking.

Answer 16

No not alot of people do. Because most baby's are naturally cute.

Answer 17

I was worried that my baby wouldn't be cute and that nobody would tell me... I think it's normal to worry. I also worry that I think my baby is smarter than she actually is.

It doesn't matter if your baby is cute, or smart or whatever, he or she will be YOURS. Isn't it more important to have your own flesh and blood than a pretty baby that you pick out like a sofa out of a catalogue? I sincerely hope you do outgrow this shallow attitude, as there are no guarantees in life. There is no guarantee that you will be able to conceive a child of your own, or that that child with be 'extremely good looking.' Nor is there any guarantee that you will be able to pick out your perfect "good looking children who look like you and your husband".