Is it normal to make mistakes, disagreements or fight in a relationship? ?

Question

Is there such a thing as a PERFECT relationship? Where nothing could go wrong at all OR is it normal to make mistakes, disagreements or even have a fight over something? When you make a mistake or fight about a disagreement or a certain situation how do you handle it? How do you work things out?

Answer 1

No, there's no such thing as a perfect relationship. You are melding two personalities with two different backgrounds into a personal relationship. There's going to be some bumps and bruises along the way but overtime these will be fewer and fewer but NEVER nonexistent. Over 25 years of marriage, my husband and I have had a lot of disagreements. I will tell you that you both have to learn the smart way to have fights (not fist fights) - just disagreements. First of all, when you are fighting and one gets too mad of losing control, then that person should leave to cool off -- away from the house, as an example. When you both have cooled off and can talk like ADULTS, then it is the time to talk about the problem. NOT until that time. No name calling is allowed either. You are adults who need to handle the problem as an adult not like spoiled children demanding their own way. You BOTH have to be able to compromise when necessary and NEVER throw the subject up again in the other person's face as an insult ESPECIALLY around others. Always kiss and make up at the end of a fight to heal your hearts. Last of all, try to avoid fights by keeping a line of open communication between both of you so that you can sit down and talk about things to try and solve a problem without blowing up.

The more time you are together as a couple, you will begin to know each other so well that when something does come up, you will almost know what the other will say before you even approach him/her. So just confirm what you already know and lay down another approach and explain why you think it would be a better way of doing something.    

Answer 2

No, there isn't any perfect relationship. Impossible, because humans will surely make mistakes.

If you're having problems with you partner, first of all, have patience, dont fight back immediately. One of you have to be calm and see the situation. You should listen to your partner's problems/remarks etc, and your partner should listen to your's too. Then both of you should discuss the matter properly and seriously.

I feel that fights, quarrels etc. will bring you and your partner closer than before.