Is it normal to need warning before social gatherings?

Question

I like to plan things ahead of time, and if someone asks me to hang out minutes before the event would take place, I appreciate the offer but am reluctant to go. I like an element of predictability in my life, although I know that it is sometimes good to be spontaneous as well. It's just if something contradicts with the "mental plan" of my day I had in my mind, I tend to turn down last-minute invitations.

Is this normal and/or healthy? Also, does anyone else feel this way? Thank you.

Answer 1

Hi

I think a lot of people think the way you do. I have friends that like an ordered way of life especially if they have children/work and other obligations.Some just simply need time to get an outfit, go to the hairdresser etc they like it as part of the fun of a night out. Whilst others just jump in the shower chuck on a pair of jeans then say "where are we going again" I think the way your parents handled social occasions influence the way you are. I am a little of both..if it's a dressy sort of occasion I like time to buy the outfit,get my hair done etc. But if it's a friend saying she's got a couple of tickets for a concert that night I become the jump in the shower type.When it comes to a pal wanting a coffee and a chat I might even skip the shower

Answer 2

Your not alone.

My friends do it all the time... they'll wait untill thursday to let me know they're going out friday. Even though i still go i let them know i dont like being told last second.

Answer 3

Absolutely. I had a new friend call me up and ask me to lunch. I said "Great, when?" He said, "I can pick you up in 10 minutes." Now, that's last minute to me. I like a couple of days advance notice. However, it's only apples and oranges, not normal or abnormal.