Is it normal to obsessive about guys as a teen?

Question

Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl.

I'm a little obsessive about guys. Wherever I go (whether it be the grocery store, the movies, a restaurant, etc) I find that I'm always looking around the room to see if I can find any cute guys. I don't actually go up to them and talk to them or smile at them or anything as I am too shy, but I noticed that my eyes are always looking for them. I don't have a crush on any guy at the moment but whenever it's the school year, I'll probably have a crush on about one or two guys in one month. Then the next month, I'll forget about them and then I have a crush on a different guy or two. Then the month after that I'll forget about them too, then I'll have a crush on another guy or two.

Don't worry, I don't stalk them or anything.

And please don't call me a "horny sl*t" or anything because I know I'm saving "it" for marriage.

To add to this situation of mine, I've NEVER had a boyfriend n'or has a guy ever asked me out.

Is it normal for me to be obsessive about guys at this age? Is this just a phase? Or will I be like this for the rest of my life?

Thanks.

Answer 1

You'll grow out of it. Hopefully.

One piece of advice, though. People can smell desperation like cheap perfume. Once you stop wanting a boyfriend so much, you'll get more attention from guys. In the meantime, focus on school and your activities.

Answer 2

Perfectly normal.  

Answer 3

It's okay, you're fine. Actually, it is very likely that you're obsessing over guys BECAUSE of the fact that you've never really had one of your own. You don't know what it's like and you desperately want to know. So just relax. You're guy will come...and they usually come to you when you're not looking ;) Good luck!

And by the way...good for you for deciding to wait for marriage! That's what I'm doing too! Good luck in life!

Answer 4

My wife was the same way wen she was a teen, its completely normal.

Its funny when ever we drive through town and she points at a house and says "XYZ used to live there, i had a crush on him when i was in (x) Grade" then i ask her to only point out the houses of the people she didn't have crushes on because it would save time

Answer 5

It's human nature.  We're supposed to get horny as soon a we can make babies.  Most anyone can by the age of 15, it makes perfect sense.

Answer 6

ya guys and gals are both pervs

Answer 7

I don't know if it is normal, but it is certainly typical.

Answer 8

Let me get this out of the way immediately ... what you're feeling is perfectly normal.  Even my fiancee has said she went through the same thing when she was between 14 and 17.  So don't worry, it's just them crazy teenage years. :)

With that out of the way, let me say this...

Kudos to you!  Wow!  Talk about self-control!  You're constantly focussed on guys, having crushes on them, then quickly moving along in your mind to an even cuter, better guy.

But in all of this, you're not acting on it.  You're not dating a million guys, you don't have a million boyfriends, you're not sleeping around, nothing!  All you're doing is admiring from a distance.

And to top it all off, you intend to abstain from s*x until marriage.

My dear, all I can say is "wow!"  THAT is self-control.  THAT is self-discipline!  

I have a 13 year old son who is just entering the "girls, girls, girls" phase, and my fiancee and I plan on having more children when we're married.

And if my daughters turn out anything like you when it comes to boys, I will drop to my knees and thank God nightly that I was blessed with girls of such patience and discipline.

I'm not telling you this to get an automatic best answer.

I'm telling you this because you deserve to hear it.

And to prove it, if you choose me for best answer, I'll delete my post.

Way to go!  Keep it up!

Best wishes.

Answer 9

That is just normal, and it won't change soon.

Answer 10

ya it's normal, for the makings of a desperate. get over them and they'll come to you.

Answer 11

Nah. I think you're good. I was pretty boy-crazy when I was 15 too. It is a phase, and I think you'll calm down around 30. :)