Is it normal to still be worried?

Question

Okay, so I worry about being pregnant probably 3 out of 4 weeks every month. I would like to have children someday but right now I am a university student without much money and it would obviously be irresponsible now.

I have a steady boyfriend, we've been together for over two years now. He thinks it's stupid that I'm always worried about pregnancy. Especially since:

-we always use condoms and they've never broken before

-I'm on the pill and have been on it for five months, and have never missed a pill yet

-I haven't missed a period, in fact it's never even late - it's always on time

-even when I'm on my period, I'm worried about being pregnant (because of the stories I hear of women still getting their period during the first few months of their pregnancies)

-I do pregnancy tests at least once every two months and they're always negative

I get symptoms from the pill that make me think I could be pregnant, so that's where a lot of my worry stems from.

Is this normal? Does anyone else worry about this as constantly as I do? I feel like it's going to start consuming my life if I don't become abstinent or something soon. Any advice, please?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you are doing everything possible to prevent pregnancy. If you take the pill regularly it is like 97% effective. Then to use a condom on top of it, you should not worry at all. The only time you should worry is if you are having unprotected s*x and miss pills. It really is not very common for woman to bleed at all during their pregnancies. So these stories about woman who continue to have a period or don't know they are pregnant for like 7 months are so rare and believe me they are not using two forms of birth control. So please don't worry. You are being very responsible. The chances of you becomming pregnant while on the pill and using condoms would be like winning the lottery. Just keep taking your pill on a regular basis and you'll be fine.  

Answer 2

You seem a bit over-worried.  If it's not a good timing for a baby and you really worry that much (and just my philosophy in general), maybe you should just hold off on s*x until you're more prepared.

However, it's EXTREMELY unlikely you would be pregnant, especially without missing your period, so I wouldn't waste money on all those tests.  I was never regular after college, so I would get really worried when I was late, but I was only on the pill (allergic to latex) and had many missed periods.  I think you can not worry quite so much...but be willing to accept the consequences if you end up in the ridiculously small percentage that gets pregnant despite all the precautions.

Answer 3

As long as you are fertile this will be a worry. Pregnancy is not the problem though. the problem is that you are a worrier and to overcome this you must practice having thoughts that are not worrisome. like focus on what makes you feel good. meditate on feeling good . Gain confidence in yourself as a woman. Learn about anxiety and how to solve it.

I did become pregnagnt on the pill and had an abortion. I too worried. I drank papaya juice all of the time because it and cinnamon are abortive.

Get in touch with your feelings about pregnancy and mother hood.

This will go away when you can get your tubes tied. But until then get in control of your emotions. Pregnancy is not the problem, loosing control of your emotions is the problem. Practicing control of what you think about is the answer. Or maybe the pill is raising your anxiety level as a side affect. Please stop blaming your self for this condition of worrying. Ask you doctor so you can get some relief. you need some relief, ok.

Answer 4

As long as you are careful like you have been you shouldn't get pregnant and the symptoms you think you are having are probably from stressing over it so much. So try not to stress so much and just make sure if you are on any prescription medication that you talk to your doctor to see if it will interact with your birth control.  

Answer 5

if i were you i would start investing in a more heavier form of birth control like the iud or depo shot.....and i know you dont wanna stop having s*x lol but when you have s*x, thats one thing you have to deal with unfortuanelty, UNLESS you do the permanent bc. but yea i get worried on my period too, because of all those "stories" of people getting pregnant and having periods! which i still think is bs but yea lol

Answer 6

I dont want to sound rude at all, so excuse me if i do sound rude, I dont mean it. but, you should be worried, things has happened and with all that 'protection' people have procreated before. I think maybe you should start playing it safe and lay off the boyfriend a week before your expected period. Just to add a bit more of a safety net for you. Best of luck with your education and future.

Answer 7

you shouldnt be worried if you and your boyfriend are practicing safe s*x and your on birth control you will be just fine if you still feel like your worried find out what time of the month your ovulating just by googling in ovulation calculator and abstain from s*x around that time of the month. however if your practicing safe s*x you shouldnt be to worried

Answer 8

You sound more worried than most people.  Have you thought about giving up s*x for a while?  Then you won't have to worry.  If you are so worried about getting pregnant, it makes it so hard to enjoy s*x.  Also, and this is not what you were asking, have you taken a hard look at your relationship with your bf?  I found that I worried about getting pregnant when I was having s*x with boyfriends I didn't really love.  Or boyfriends that would support me if I accidently got pregnant.  You might want to take a hard look at how serious you are with your boyfriend.  This is only a suggestion and if you are really happy with the bf ignore this suggestion.